Couples or married question

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  1. Gingerbear

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    Need your help proving a point to my husband.
    1. On an average week how often do you have sex?
    (No this isn't a brag session or sob story session)
    2. How many years have you been together?
    3. Would you choose them again if you knew then, what you know now?
    4.other than leaving your spouse & having a different spouse, what would you go change to be a better spouse?
     
  2. Gingerbear

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    My answers
    1. Being modest here 5-7x per week
    2. 23
    3. Absolutely
    4. Worried less. I was up-tight a few years.
     
  3. pebbles_bambam

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    5-7 is being modest? Damn! We have some catching up to do!
    1. on average 2-3 times per week....more/less depending on the schedule
    2. 13 years
    3. Yes!
    4. To be a better spouse...rolling with the punches, be better at adapting to changes, and always working on listening skills.
     
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  4. djanalyst

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    0.01 :(

    29+

    no :(

    start / finish University earlier
     
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    1. Depends. Average maybe 3x a week but frequency really changes drastically between zero and eight times depending on many factors.

    2. 9 years.

    3. Absolutely

    4. I would have more faith in myself, sharing the same faith and view he has of me.
     
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  6. Rinoa Rey

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    2-4x a week depending on work
    8 Years
    Yes
    Tell myself to take things day by day and don't sweat the small stuff
     
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  7. Gingerbear

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    Keep in mind our kids are grown & I'm not employed. It has only been the past 2 years 5-7 times per week. Before that probably 3-5 per week.
     
  8. whybother

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    Less than once a week

    28 years

    In a heartbeat

    I wouldn't come here.
     
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    Great topic.
    What was the point that you were trying to prove to BM...that you're a fun and scorching couple?:)
    That 5-7x per week number is why I was a little hesitant to have you as a neighbor.:D Great for you, but making us all look bad!

    1. 1-2x per week average, depending on how much alone-time we can carve out, and her cycle. Over 3x in a week requires a vacation without kids. We both seem to be on a similar 'horny schedule' so we never go too long without jumping the other. And there are ways to be sexy together without full-on sex.
    2. I don't want to date myself so I'll say 20+
    3. Don't take this the wrong way, but I'd leave the younger 'her' for the present one. She could probably say the same about me.
    4. This is the hardest one to answer. Like others have said, not getting irritated by stuff that doesn't matter in the Big Picture. I wish I could go back with the knowledge of how good things turned out. But that's life, and human nature.
     
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    1. 5. Before we started to get more work in our freelance jobs, it was 10. Hmm, money or sex, money or sex...

    2. 3.

    3. Definitely.

    4. One thing we both learned very early: Never try to "prove a point" with your partner.
     
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    1. 2-5, can really vary

    2. 25 years in January

    4. Absolutely, in a heart beat

    5. I would try not to be so insecure and really try not to worry about everything
     
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    1. 2-5 varies a lot. sometimes low as 1 or over 10, too.
    2. 10 years.
    3. yes, i still find mrsbiker to be exciting and stimulating, both physically and mentally!
    4. only thing i'd cahnge is mrsbker's refusal to suck me after i've been inside her.
     
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  13. AJP

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    I will cut open a vein here on this one.

    2 to 3 times per week

    33 years married

    Yes

    Look at less porn but you guys keep me young
     
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    1. On an average week how often do you have sex?
    If you mean sex with my man, I think about 3 times per week. It varies, of course.

    2. How many years have you been together?
    We've been together for about 23 years.

    3. Would you choose them again if you knew then, what you know now?
    No.


    4.other than leaving your spouse & having a different spouse, what would you go change to be a better spouse?
    My man claims I satisfy him 100%, therefore, I shouldn't change. Unfortunately, the opposite isn't true and he knows it. We have no secrets.
     
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    We have sex maybe once a week, and often less...we have been together 36 years...I would choose someone else--what would improve her as a spouse--she does not listen at all (that is the biggest one), she has not real interest in sex, she wants to be in charge of everyone...
     
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    5-8 times a week

    Together 12 years

    Still would pick him

    We both need to communicate more before problems get so overwhelming.
     
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    1. On an average week how often do you have sex?

    Before pregnancy, maybe once.

    2. How many years have you been together?
    10

    3. Would you choose them again if you knew then, what you know now?
    On a friendship level, yes. On a sexual level, no.

    4. Other than leaving your spouse & having a different spouse, what would you go change to be a better spouse?
    I think I'm too invested in pleasing. I thrive on reactions to my efforts (sexually and not) and I should just pride myself on a job done. I could also be more vocal about things.
     
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    I think your a fantastic lady
     
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    Would be interesting to read replies for people after 30 years and see if they are the same! I know mine changed!
     
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