Couple Swapping

Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by HotStud2332, Sep 28, 2011.

  1. HotStud2332

    HotStud2332 New Member

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    Have a big fantasy of me and my gf doin a partner swap. She's not up for it but it really turns me on! And idea's?
     
  2. Paula

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    Yes. If your gf doesn't want it then forget it.
     
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    All you can do is talk about it in dept with her and after if she still does not want it then it will remain a fantasy.
     
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    Get a new girl friend.

    People, don't settle for less then what you want. People do it every day, and it pisses me off. So far, I've only settled for less once, and she was a mega bitch......of course, that was before I got smart when I turned 25. LOL
     
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    Tell her it's your way or the highway.

    Maybe start out with a MMF. Break her into the swapping slowly. And then after the first 15 minutes it's all wide open
     
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    A few couples I have met wanted total partner swapping but started with a MMF threesome first (I was the other male, so this is how I know). The women expressed jealousy if they saw their partner having sex with another woman, but the other way was fine. At least one of those couples probably went to full partner swapping after a good session with me.

    But it is down to both of you: I would love to do this with my wife, either another guy or full swapping, but she's not interested.
     
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    Ya, I've thought about what ply said.
     
  8. RideNaked2

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    This is a difficult situation. If your SO is someone that you've been with for a LTR then it gets a little deicer to just say "my way or the highway!"

    T and I met online in an adult meeting site..so sexual stuff was pretty much out in the open already. However we haven't really explored ALL of these things until now when that the kids are gone and we have our entire house to ourselves.

    You need to make sure that you are communicating your needs/wants so that your g/f understands them and why. Big thing communication is especially if you wish to continue in the relationship.
     
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    Don't forget that sometimes fantasies are better off remaining fantasies. If your relationship is important, then you must take into account that she may never be into this. You can still enjoy the fantasy of it.

    That said, you might try interesting her in some three way/swap porn, etc. to try to break the ice. Try a vibrator or dildo for some double penetration, i.e. while she's giving you oral, or the like. In any case, it will take time for her to change her mind, and if you push, it will likely go the wrong way... My 2 cents...

    T
     
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    I haven't done it yet. It was suggested but nothin ever happened. But I would try to do 3sm first and let her pick the guy.
     
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    Did you manage to 'blow her mind' in the hotel room that you booked? I remember you asked us in a question before..... a load of strangers how to please your gf. Now, you want to bone someone else.

    Are you going to be alright, knowing that some other guys cock is going to be in her. Or are you subliminally asking her permission to sleep with another woman?

    If she is not up for couple swapping, it sounds like the 'relationship' is doomed. If it turns you on so much, clearly, you should not be in a LTR.
     
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    respect her wishes and either give it up or leave. it's a question of much you want to prioritize around this.