[Ask a Girl] Could watching porn change you?

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    Gals, My g/f and me have always watched porn since be started our relationship three years ago. She like it, she gets wetter, and comes faster than without watching. We generally watch MFM threesome sex, or group sex with multiple men pleasing one or fewer women. I have a large cock fetish, though am not bi, so like to get her hot talking about her taking big cocks, while I watch or participate. She indulges me in all this for the most part, but states couldn't do it for real. We had a brief breakup last year during which she had sex with a girlfriend of hers, and she told me later (after we got back together) that she wouldn't have done this if it hadn't been for all the porn and kinky talk giving her ideas. So my question to all of you ladies is, how much, or to what degree could you be changed by being with a boyfriend, where you are regularly exposed to porn and fantasy talk regarding sexual behavior that you previously could not see yourself engaging in? Can watching pornographic movies/videos, if they appeal to you and get you hot and excited, eventually lead you to want to try something kinky and outside the (boring) norm? Please let me know what it would take to venture beyond your normal limits. Thanks for any input. JTS
     
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    For me it didn't change anything, my mind has always been dirty and looking for new and kinky things to try. Maybe variations of things we've already tried but I can't say porn really gave me any ideas that I hadn't thought of already but I sure enjoyed watching them being acted out.

    But for instance, I have watched mmf threesomes and although I like watching it, it is not something I want to or ever would partake in. Theres a big difference in watching and doing for some things
     
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    What about over time, if you are continually exposed to something (porn or otherwise) that, because you ultimately have strong orgasms from viewing or being subjected to, you begin to associate that activity with pleasure. Is there a gradual acceptance and maybe at least subconscious desire to try something that you previously wouldn't have considered? I am not an expert in human psychology, but it seems if certain images become planted in the brain, and these images have a connection with pleasure, that somehow, again over time, it may change one's opinion of it. Any thoughts? By the way, your picture it beautiful!! Is that really you? JTS
     
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    Still no. Ive watched DP, threesomes, etc for YEARS and my thoughts on trying them out have never swayed.

    I've realized, for me, it can be enjoyable to watch but acting them out in real life comes with a little more baggage.
     
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    OK, well I appreciate your honest feedback. I also wonder if age plays a factor in this. At 28, you're still quite young. (Please don't take this as an insult, it's not meant to be!). As we get older-- my g/f and me are in our 40's-- it's natural for one's outlook to change. For instance, I've been through the romantic love early years, married 13 years, children approaching adulthood, several other relationships since my divorce, etc., etc. Although you do sound open minded, do you think that say 20 years down the road you may get to a point where you may want to try things you hadn't tried before? Maybe not threesomes per se, but certain things sexual that you are not open to now?
     
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    I watch porn on an as needed basis. You can find me watching porn perhaps 3-4 times a month. My husband and I rarely watch porn together mostly because we don't have a large PC monitor to watch it on and our own collection is quite lame.

    In any case, I use the porn I watch stictly as a mastabatory aid and not part of a love making experience IRL. As far as it giving me dirty ideas to do wild things, yeah, of course it does! DUH! That is what porn is for, right? :p

    Regarding your large cock fetish and you being straight, I think if men were honest, about 99.99% would admit they were fans of the mega peenie.
    Hell, EVERYBODY likes the sight of a big dick; actually doing something with one is quite another matter. I get that. :tup

    Now, if my husband and I were to split up, I would not automatically hunt out a gang of hung hot studs to fuck............... er, ah........ then again, maybe I would. :D
     
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    Barbwire: hahaha...I love your response...thanks for feedback. First of all, I must say, you are right in the same age group as me and my g/f. So, we probably have at least a somewhat similar "angle" on life. ;-) I must say, it is great that you noticed that when I say I have a big dick fetish, but am not bi, you didn't question it. Because it's true. And you can see that side of guys!! Cool you!! hahaha.. I am not bi-sexual and have no desire to "be" with a man, but to have a bull as a sexual toy for me and my g/f is the ultimate. I am myself of normal penis size, around 6 inches at my peak (and this is honest). My past wife and g/f's have always told me I'm fine, and I believe it; but us guys are wierd, and we have penis hangups, and for some reason I am not content with my size and would do most anything to have a ten inch cock! (Except for disfiguring surgery)!! If I can't have this, then fantasizing about and bringing in another guy is the next best thing. I am curious about your relationship. You do not watch porn often with your hubby, but you watch it about weekly for masturbating. Without getting too personal, do you guys have sex at least weekly and do you bring in to your pillow talk stuff you see in porn? At the end of your post, you state if you ever broke up, you could see yourself maybe getting it on with a bunch of hung guys. I realize you may have just been being funny, but how much of this is an actual desire, and how do you share this with your hubby? Please disregard anything too personal, and just share whatever you feel appropriate. I am especially interested in responses from women in my/our same general age group. Thanks!! JTS