could he be bi? he introduced me to his friend who is gay

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  1. SarahBear2010

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    He brought me over to a friend's house and told me that his friend is gay. Is it possible my friend is bi? I know drugs are a factor and they were hanging out by themselves for a bit. He's been married before and was in a long-term relationship with a girl. One thing I known about him, he's always hanging out with his guy buddies, especially on the weekends

    He totally acts like a guy and looks like one too so I don't get it.

    I've have slept with him and told him I don't do anal.
     
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    Let me get this shit straight....

    You're questioning his sexuality because his friend is gay? On the other hand, he can't be gay because he looks like a man and acts like one and we all know gay men don't actually look or act like men.

    He hangs out with men? Holy red flags!

    Why don't you ask him? Oh, cause then you couldn't troll us asking for advice you never take.
     
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    You have slept with his gay friend??
     
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    I couldn't ask him too personal in my opinion. Nothing wrong with a guy hanging out with his buddies. He puts priority on hanging out with his buddies over his kids especially on the weekends.
     
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    Not recently, cause he isn't in the "mood"
     
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    Because he's fucked up and on drugs.

    If it's too personal then why do you even care? You've slept with this guy, yet his sexuality is too personal?
     
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    For someone who doesn't enjoy sex and never wanted to be touched, you sure have yourself a lot of it
     
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    If he's a druggie, being gay should be the last of your worries. Maybe he needs you to be his beard? I never hung around with gay guys, they weren't into the same things I was....GIRLS.

    Is he bi, could be, plenty to give pause, ask. I hope you're using protection.
     
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    yes I hope you're using protection..
     
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    How recently? and he's all of a sudden gay now? Did he say he's jumped the fence?
     
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    Yep, about the same time he introduced me to his gay friend.
     
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    You're not really making sense.

    Did you have sex with the GAY friend? Or are you talking about the same guy from all your other posts
     
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    You know how to pick em.
     
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    Oh so you haven't slept with the gay friend... just the friend you have been talking about all this time?... and you're thinking he is gay/bi now because he has lost interest in sex with you?
     
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    This seems to be where the confusion started and it just snowballed from there.

    Sarah clearly stated she slept with the man that she is questioning the sexuality of.

    I don't know why Untamed didn't see that.

    Now, can we just be civil and not call each other trolls and liars.

    This place and it's wolf pack are really getting on my nerves.
     
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    No I didn't sleep with the gay friend. My friend, I slept with, Im questioning that he may be bi yeah, I agree lets all be civil
     
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    actually if you read all of the threads she has started and posts she has made there is no reason to take her seriously or to believe she even wants help or advice.

    Sorry that I don't have sympathy for someone who one week basically says she doesn't want to have sex and it's being forced upon her then the next week she talks about how she's still fucking him

    I don't see how anyone isn't being civil here
     
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    I think you need to read back over the thread BW!

    she said this initially

    He totally acts like a guy and looks like one too so I don't get it.

    I've have slept with him and told him I don't do anal.


    I replied with a question as I was confused as to who she was talking about...

    You have slept with his gay friend??

    she replied to my question "Not recently, cause he isn't in the "mood""

    I am not the one who started the confusion....

    But it seems yes she has cleared it up. I wasn't being uncivilized at all IMO. We need the facts to give advice right? well they weren't all there. So I asked a question
     
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    Yeah I was lost too. Maybe he is gay but has been afraid to try it. Theres nothing wrong with gay friends but if hes hanging around them all the time I would start to question things too.

    I think you found yourself a gay guy
     
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    ask him... doesn't sound gay to me. i have gay friends. doesn't mean i'm gay. gay guys have straight friends, doesn't mean they're closet straight...

    wolf pack?