confussed but not complaining

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  1. handy

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    hi everyone,
    has i already said, my lovely wife is now letting me take photos of her and iv up loaded them.
    today my wife as shown me several items of sexy night ware that she bought from e.bay.
    and they are sexy belive me,
    now this is why im confussed, iv tried over the years like any good husband does.
    to buy her more or less the same nightware,
    and iv always hit a concret wall,
    i used to pestered my wife for years always moaning im not getting enough etc etc.
    now because iv stopped all my banging on about sex to her,
    my wife has done a 360 degree turn.
    now im getting everything and more. and could never complaine.
    was it a simple case all i had to do was shut the hell up
    and give her time,:)
     
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  2. htoad

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    Perhaps your nagging was a turn off to her. Many times if you complain over and over the person focuses less on the issue and more on the nagging.

    Since you have stopped maybe there have also been other changes in your behavior that your wife now appreciates, and therefor is willing to be more adventurous for you.

    I believe in the adage "you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar". Consider that is what may be happening in this case.
     
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    I agree...nothing is less sexy then nagging.She had to wait until she felt comfortable doing it on her own terms,not just because you wanted her to.Feeling sexual...really is not something that can be forced
     
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    Re: confused but not complaining

    About the nagging, I agree, too.

    Back when my wife and I first got serious together, she was wise enough to ask for patience in these matters. I was smart enough to give it to her.

    About certain kinks, fetish clothing, and the like, she said, "I may need a few years before I'm ready to be really adventurous."

    For us, it was like cooking a turkey in the oven: you just can't crank the oven on it's highest setting, no matter how hungry you are - all that will do is ruin the turkey.
     
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    And if she did a 360 she would still not be having sex with you, she did a 180.
     
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    lol:lol
     
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    Geometry can make some people confussed.
     
  8. handy

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    i stand corrected 180 is right,
    lol
     
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    could also have to do with age, most women tend to hit their sexual peak between 30 & 40....just a thought.
     
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    Maybe she was struck by lightening !!!!!! ?????? Seriously odd , because the same exact thing happened in our relationship !!