Sorry, kind of long post here... From many posts I have read on relationships and sex, I have the following general conclusion: If one is truly interested in the relationship, both people are generally open to mixing things up within reason in the bedroom to keep things fun. I have been exclusive with my gf now for only about a month now. So, due to full time jobs, and life, we have sex on about 2-3 days a week. She has admitted she 'ideally' could have sex every day. (read: high sex drive) I have limitations due to surgery, which is prooving to be a challenge in the bedroom. Here's the issue: She CAN orgasm, and actually quite easily from intercourse. But, to her knowledge, only when she is on top. This may not normally be a problem, but as mentioned, I have health issues that make sex a little challenging for the time being. I couldn't take it any more, and the last time we had sex, I basically admitted to her that what she was doing was hurting me, and we would need to be a little more creative when having sex, as my back just isn't ready for that kind of stress. I didn't yell, and I tried to be as nice as possible, as I tried so hard to not mentally traumatize her into never wanting sex with me again. Since then, she has been pretty busy, but we still text a little each day, and she has called me. But yesterday, I got the "We will have to get together sometime before you leave town." but she wouldn't commit to a day. "We will see." (I leave town on sunday, and I am gone for five nights). I enjoy her company, and I enjoy her for much more than sex. But I wonder if what happened is a big problem for her. She claims to orgasm only ONE way, maybe another way "If your really good." But, sadly, Due to my recovery and physical condition, long lasting (7-10 mins) hard sex is not something I can do at this time. Ladies, one month into a relationship, how would you feel about the situation? I try pretty hard to mix things up, oral stimulation, hand stimulation, different positions... But she really only is willing to 2 positions, missionary, and her on top. I know sex isnt everything and I shouldnt rush, or be overly concerned, but I AM CONCERNED. As a guy, it is hard on the ego to not be able to satisfy a women who 'normally' doesn't have a problem getting satisfied.