[Ask a Girl] Confunkled

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  1. Nobody34

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    My gf and i have been together off and on for 2 yrs now we have a great sex life we done most of the things we wanted sexually and we are both very happy but she has issues with masturbation she doesent like doing it herself wich is fine with me but once in a while i just dont have the time or energy to go for a 2 hour sex marathon everyday due to work or just long days

    Im tired and just sometimes i just wanna pull the goalie :lol but when she finds out it turns into a huge fight and she ends up spending the rest of they day being snippy with me or not talking to me at all

    I have asked her what the big issue is and to this day she just tells me she thinks its wrong it makes her feel unattractive and makes her feel like i dont want to have sex with her but its not the case i have tried to explain to her that its not her its just been somthing i been doing since i figured it out when i was younger and i enjoy it

    I have bought her toys and even tried to do it with her and she just flat out refuses to use them or even consider doing it together all together she just tells me its wrong and i shouldent be doing it i have her

    wich is true but again i tell her sometimes i just want a quick release and or im tired after work and i dont have the energy to go all night and its just a quick fix i have even offered to let her do it for me but no good

    why is it that some women have issues with it? its not like its cheating or bad for you there is alot worse things people could be doing other then that so any advice you ladies could offer or suggestons i would be very apreciative
     
  2. nurseharley

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    hmmm, sounds like she's being a bit dramatic. if she isn't really willing to be more open with masturbating then she doesn't have too much room to complain. at least you've tried to come up with ways of involving her. why won't she even TRY it? she may like it.

    it sounds like she's not going to get over it anytime soon and if she isn't even entertaining the idea of masturbating with you, or watching you, or whatever else then i don't know what to tell you.

    no one is gonna stop me from masturbating
     
  3. Alwayslearningsex

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    I didn't read the others' comments and sorry, just late, but anyway you ever tried quickies? Just get yourself off with her and get her off too,
    and that's it.
    As for masturbation, I am totally with you. Even a well serviced guy with the most attractive girl with a happy sex life may need to do it himself alone once in a while, hard to explain but it's a real need.
    Maybe she could masturbate you and you, do it to her. Another suggestion.
     
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    i agree that your gf is being dramatic. sex is something beautiful when shared. guess what??? it's also an act of self-discovery. there is nothing wrong with masturbation--whether you're in a relationship or not. period.
     
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    My ex wouldn't masturbate at all. If he was horny in the least he expected me to have intercourse with him everytime. He couldn't cum from oral and to get him off by hand just about made my arm drop off. Like you, Nobody, I often like a quick release but he wasn't capable of (or willing to try) quickies. I used to masturbate in secret because he got angry that I dare to be horny and not let him fuck me. I would have loved to involve him if only it meant I wouldn't end up being fucked all night everytime.

    I guess some people are weird like that.
     
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    I wish I could help. I am looking for the same answer. My wife disapproves of masturbation but has a very very low libido. I wish I understood. The only thing I can tell you is to try open communication. Don't judge her just tell her you are trying to understand. Sorry that I can't help more.
     
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    a round of quick sex over the sofa or on the stairs is brill :whoa:naughtydance
     
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    Two cents with my own story here:
    at first, my sex devilicious lady friend was a bit uncomfortable with me jacking off, because we had sex VERY often, all the time. But i missed my alone time :)
    Several months later, now. I masturbate and have sex regularly, she doesn't care. Hell, sometimes, I tell her I'm horny and when she's not in the mood, I wank off right there in the bed with her. We even talk during, she likes to watch me sometimes too.
    It's pretty cool :)
     
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    As for her not wanting to masturbate, there may be some underlying problem with why she doesn't want to masturbate. Religion, the way she was bought up, etc. It could be a bunch of different things.
    As for her not liking you to masturbate, she's being a bit unreasonable. I'll admit that I sometime don't like it when my husband masturbates but I get over it. If you have tried to explain to her why you do it and that it's not because you don't want to have sex with her or that you're not attracted to her and she still doesn't understand try explaining again somewhat differently than you did before and hopefully she will understand.