Accolades are simple atta boys or wtgs, Way To Go. But there needs to be an agreement on what is a good direction, so the lover can give a meaningful Accolade. Sometimes I explain a level of accomplishement and ask for an accolade from W. Where W disagrees with my concepts of Posititve, then accolades are tough to come by. One problem is I have a lot of papers, books and stuff stored in Apple Boxes, that are labled and stacked in the basement. I could reduce the number of boxes I have to store, by sorting the contents into new boxes, then I can get rid of stuff. My wife takes the approach that all boxes are bad. New boxes seem bad to W. But new boxes are actually the key to reducing existing boxes. So I don't get many accolades for progress on new boxes, which are the key to reducing the number of boxes, total. W does not really understand my ideas on religion or politics, so if I make some contribution, or some volunteer work, W sees it as robbing the family, rather than adding meaning to life. Accolades for the basis for the feelings of love in a relationship. If W is refusing to understand accolades, W is reducing the Love in the relationship. Accolades should be the basis for Admiration, Compliments, Love and Sex. For right now, I am working on increasing Accolades and the UNDERSTANDINGS that underpin the Accolades. Since my level of struggling with these concepts is the early develping stages, any ideas or comments might help me along. Thanks.