My wife knows a woman whose husband has a medical problem, that makes it difficult or impossible to get an erection. My idea is that my wife should coach the woman on being loving to her husband, even when he is soft. It seems that men are expected to get hard, in the presence of their wife or lover. Women sometimes feel that it is up to the man to gbet hard. Some women feel that if the man is not hard, there is no reason to start foreplay. I have experienced that some women feel that foreplay should be stopped, if there is no hope of an erection. Like if I have gotten too drunk, or too short of sleep, etc. Perhaps that is the reason Viagra and other erectile dysfunction medicines are selling so well, is the widespread expectation for the male to get hard, or nothing is going to hapen. So I need to identify the assumptions that are underpinning the belief that foreplay stops if the penis is soft. Mrs. Softee is unhappy with her marriage, and Mr. Softee is a little disatisfied as well. I will try to help my wife be their soft sex coach. Ideas?