Closeted bi guys

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  1. Lkmccr

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    When I joined here I didn't realize.i was bisexual but now I do. I've encountered many guys who have similar desires. Just wondering if this is much more common than I think. Any guys who. Have gay desires let me know what you think
     
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  2. Joe Bloe

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    Are you sure you need to label yourself?

    I'm labeled as heterosexual, monogamous and sometimes I fantasize about guys. It's exciting to push boundaries and try new things.

    I think at heart we all want exciting sex and new experiences. What does the label even mean other than enjoying yourself in exciting ways?

    I think too many of us get caught up in explaining the physical when what is more important is the emotional connections we build.
     
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    Doesn't matter what people classify me as I just know I'm as turned on by cock as I am by pussy
     
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    The idea that society forbids it is part of what makes it exciting! I fantasize about guys all the time. I love watching gay porn. Seeing those cocks and watching guys cum! Yeah, I think its pretty common.
     
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    I've gone beyond fantasizing but I know what you mean. The forbidden can be exciting
     
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    I feel about the same
     
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    I don't have gay desires. But I sure do want to suck a big dick and let it cum in my mouth. That is such a gay Staten to say you want to suck a dick. But I don't want any type of gay lifestyle. I just love big dick and I just want to suck on them when I see them hard.
     
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    I think also that people like us, people who are open enough sexually to be on this site are people that are excited about sex and new experiences. I know that ive realized im more turned on by guys too now that im here but I think that it also has a lot to do with the peoole on here having high sex drives.
     
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    Since being on sexual sites i've been needing something intimate with people and as it is difficult to find real women to talk to often, I find that like minded guys are there to give me that intimacy so I believe that is where by bi fantasies come from. I wouldn't do much if anything with a guy in person
     
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    I had a couple friends back in HS that we would share what I think they now call "bro-jobs". I think a lot had to do with raging hormones and no girlfriends back then.
    When my wife and I first got together I confessed those bro-jobs, and she thought it was hot. After we were married we actually met via a personal ad a bi married couple that were swingers. Met for drinks and really hit it off. Wife then tells me she doesn't think she could handle seeing me having sex with the other wife, so we put the swinging thing out of the picture. We never got together with them again as a couple, although my wife did spend several hours with the other wife one on one. I was out of town that evening. I was so turned on by her having her first gay sex, but also disappointed that I never got together with the husband. We did eventually have a few MFM threesomes with a good friend. Strictly hetro sex.
    FF 15 years and we now have a sexless marriage. I now find myself thinking more and more about men, bro-jobs, and even bottoming. Will probably never happen, but the fantasy is there.
     
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    Seeing this makes me wonder how many guys like this are out there.
     
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    How about you, me, and another guy give it all a shot!
     
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    I've never had anyone ask me about my sexual orientation, and I haven't volunteered any information to them about it except on sites like this. If someone was to ask me directly about it, I would say that I am Bi since that would be easier to say than telling them that i am a man that greatly prefers and enjoys everything about women but that sometimes I want to suck another mans cock and swallow his cum and then roll him over and fuck him till I fill his ass with mine.
     
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    I just caught up with this thread. All of you are pretty much saying what I'm thinking. Several years ago, I awakened to my bisexuality. I don't think that I was bisexual or gay before that. I just came to the conclusion that I would be as comfortable having sex with another man as I would with a woman. It would feel okay with me as long as the feeling with the man was mutual.

    I know that there is a section of male society who like to have sex with other men, but don't consider them gay or bisexual. What I read about that tells me that it's more about being in control of another person, and maybe not having much luck with women, wither the spouse or other women. I know that this isn't me.

    I like what alex said about about looking for intimacy. I wish that there was more opportunity for intimacy with men. I'm a caring, thoughtful, considerate guy, which most of the time leaves me feeling at odds with other men. I don't share their interests in sports, drinking beer, or their macho-ness.

    Instead, I would love to spend time with guys who are intelligent and have many varied interests, and who know how to hold a good conversation. I can do with more expression of feelings from guys, and also hope to feel comfortable with expressing my various feelings.

    And if sex happens between us, that's just one more expression to each other of who we are.

    I don't think that marriage is ever going to happen for me, either with a woman or a man. I almost got married years ago, but reflecting back on that, I was feeling desperate. It would have been a train wreck. But there's still the desire to have sex and be sexual with other people, men and women. I live in something of a backwards area, where there doesn't seem to be much room for the kind of expression that I mention. Seems in my area like you have to hetero and married, or full blown gay. The hetero and married seems very conservative, while the full-blown gay seems to feel like a militant response to the conservatism of the area. There just doesn't seem to be any in between.

    Oh, seems like I've climbed on my soapbox again :). I'll stop for now. I hope to hear more from you about how you feel.
     
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    My husband probably would not be in agreement.
     
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    Well my wife probably would not either..... how about you meet me and @alex93977 at the hotel down the street amd we all have a good time! ;)
     
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    I've been following this thread for a bit. My hubby is among the closeted bi. He had some childhood things, but that isn't why. I think it's because he has a high libido (typical), and also because he is a sensitive and loving person who craves intimacy. He's loved both men and women romantically, although only me sexually.

    I hate that our society treats men so horribly when it comes to love and intimacy. You can't express kindness, gentleness, or affection with anyone other than you mother, sister, wife, or children below age 9. No wonder men are so stressed and upset all the time.
     
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    For me I just feel that it would be a new experience.
     
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    Part of me feels like I want to submit to another guy sexually, not so much emotionally. I'm the alpha male who is looked to as the leader both at home and at work. I want to feel like my wife does when we're having sex. She rarely leads during sex (when we have it.....which isn't much), but just follows my lead. She orgasms every time and she seems fine with her role. I have submitted to her when we were into pegging. Those times she did take charge and treated me like I was her submissive partner, whether it was me on my knees sucking her 'cock' or her screwing my ass. I was submitting to her. I feel the desire to submit sexually to a man. No humiliation or degradation.........just to be taken sexually. Does any of this make sense?
     
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    That absolutely makes sense. I feel the same way, but I feel that Id like to both be top and bottom with guy sometime