Cheating?

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  1. ColbyTheMan

    ColbyTheMan New Member

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    So recently I've been thinking alot about getting with other girls. Would it be a good move? Or is it just too risky? Thoughts?
     
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    from what i have seen it always comes back to bite you on the ass. so i dont think it is worth it
     
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    sure! get with all the girls you want

    just make sure you break up with your current one first
     
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    If you want to be with other girls, you haven't found the right one to begin with.
     
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    Search your conscience. If you have to ask you probably know its wrong but in the end you have to live with yourself. You have to like yourself so act aCcordingly. And oh yeah, also ask yourself how you would feel if the role was reversed.
     
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    Ding ding ding! We have uh winnah!

    Edit: Also, check this poll/thread I made to get an idea of what folks here think of the idea of chearing, and the arguments for/against it: http://www.sexualforums.com/28719-what-your-thoughts-views-cheating.html
     
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    In my mind
    If your current partner agrees, then yes, go for it!

    I really wonder what society would be like if open marriages were more common and less taboo. It would be so good to have the choice: straight or gay, open or closed, living together or married, children or no children. Society is changing but not very quickly and I feel that a lot of the pain and heartache that cheating can cause, would be avoided if open marriages and relationships were at least an option.
     
  8. igor

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    I would say we can't really answer that not knowing what relationship you may be in now.
    I assume you are "seeing" someone. What kind of relationship is it? Unless you are really "bonded" to this person, there is nothing wrong with seeing others.
     
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    Well TBH, I had already planned on breaking up with her before I posted this thread. Lol
    I'm just interested in thoughts on cheating. :)
     
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    It may be taboo but I don't think it's all that uncommon now. The issue is that not everyone is cool with it even if they can say it's fine for others. You can't make people accept it and there will always be differences of opinion, so in the end if you want an open relationship then you have to seek a partner who is down with it as well. If you settle down with someone who isn't, that's on you, not them. So in short, the choice is there already, you just can't expect everyone to be okay with it.

    You raise a good point, though I would assume since he asks about cheating he's in a more committed relationship vs dating. What say you, OP?

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    Well, there we go then. If you're breaking up, if you wait until it's done you won't be cheating, and you can read my thread to get the idea of what the majority here thinks. :)
     
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    Please dont cheat, just break up with the girl, lol sorry i just hate cheaters, I rather be broken up with than being cheating on !
     
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    I think that most people would prefer that you break up with her because it's better to think of all the people involved so that everybody is happy, plus it might ruin a future relationship if you cheat.
     
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    I'll let ya know
    I don't have any real thoughts or opinions about it...
    I have been cheated on,and I have cheated.
    I think cheating may be worse then being cheated on,at least if you have a guilty conscience.When I did it I felt so awful I couldn't forgive myself for a long time.

    I was hurt when I got cheated on as well...but it wasn't life shattering or anything.
    I have been able to forgive cheating,of course right now I'm in a polyamorus relationship,but that is not really the same thing.
     
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    My thoughts, cheaters are about the lowest form of life. Break up first and fuck all you want.
     
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    But do they like you??
     
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    cheating = dealbreaker.. and his balls will be hanging from the bumper of my truck ;)
     
  18. Alwayslearningsex

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    To add to your point, maybe also not ready to be serious with someone yet.