i'm a psychologist and sex therapist...its very easy to create a relationship where you can start cheating or continue to cheat if this turns you on ...men are easily aroused sexually and they really dont understand their own reactions and they dont really have a problem with the women in their relationship having sex with other men as long as they get pleasure from it too....this is what we focus on in creating the conditioning. if you take this advice you can create an ideal relationship where you can have all the sex you want and still keep your bf or husband but you have to understand the idea of conditioning and pleasure i'm explaining in this email and use it effectively and consistently...constant repetition and reinforcement is what makes behavior modification therapy work. if the idea turns you on and you want to cheat but you havent done it yet the best way is to start with someone you like...giving the other man a handjob or a blowjob ... you want to be a good lover, part of the reason you want more than one man is to prove to yourself that your sexy and desirable....so go slow and make him climax hard and make sure you swallow most of the semen...even if your just giving a handjob .... or at least get alot in your mouth...because this will arouse your lover and when you tell your bf or husband he will easily detect lies so you want to be sure that you do something very sexy with the other man even something you dont do for your bf or husband and then tell him exactly what you did. actually the women and girls in my studies who have managed this best have reserved a few sexual acts for their lovers that they dont do with their bf or husband...and they make sure the bf or husband knows about it....part of the conditioning is to create sexual tension and constant arousal and obsessing by the bf or husband...some girls only swallow semen with their lovers and make a point to spit with their bf...some married women do anal with their lovers and not with their husband etc...alot of teen girls go on the pill to allow their lovers to ejaculate inside them but not their boyfriends who they insist use condoms...they also constantly reassure their bf or husband that he is the only one she loves and the other partners just satisfy her sexual needs and dont have any emotional connection. after you had the first sexual experience with the other man make a time with your bf or husband and start with kissing and letting him feel your breasts unbutton your shirt or take off your top and get him excited...then undress him and yourself and give him a very sexy handjob holding the testicles gently and firmly to control him...get him to the point where hes very close to orgasm and then say you have to tell him something...ask him not to interrupt you till your done...say he should just climax when he needs to and you can talk about it later if he wants but at this moment you need to tell him something....then go over the details of the sexual experience with the other guy and make sure that you tell the truth...if you swallowed for the other guy say it in every detail...how he moaned...how he throbbed in your mouth, how much semen he ejaculated (try and count the ropes if you can)....etc...and the most important thing is to be talking about the other mans orgasm when your bf or husband has his orgasm and ejaculates...if your giving a handjob you can talk about this which is why we suggest handjobs the first few times...the whole point is to connect his orgasms with the orgasm of your lovers....you can condition him to want this even more than you do....you will be amazed but soon your bf or husband will be masturbating even by himself fantasizing about you and your lovers. i've personally counseled hundreds of teen girls and married women in this technique and they have all reported alot of success and you will even find that your relationship with your bf or husband and the sex you have with him will improve greatly and you will be happier with your relationship with him and the guys you choose as lovers. in this advice done properly everybody wins. no matter what happens do NOT discuss your sexual relationships that you have with your lovers with your bf or husband until he is sexually aroused and nude. its a common mistake that some guys get upset or angry the first few times and the woman agrees to discuss it with the man not being aroused...if you make this mistake your life will be alot harder so its alot easier to do things right from the beginning and not make this mistake...i repeat...no matter what happens DO NOT discuss ANYTHING about your lover or lovers with your bf/husband unless he is nude and sexually aroused...if you want to have sex with him its fine to talk about it when hes inside you or when your sucking his penis or giving him a handjob... any other time is a big NO NO. after the first few handjobs when you break the idea to your bf or husband that you have a new lover and that your giving this lover unbelievable sexual pleasure, its really a good idea to make sure that sexual intercourse with your bf or husband always centers on a discussion of exactly what you do with your lovers. you should focus on details of what you do for him or them and explain to your bf or husband. you can actually feel his penis swelling and straining in your vagina while you tell these stories. remember its essential to be talking about your lovers orgasm when your bf or husband has his ....he has to connect this sensation of his penis sliding in your vagina with his fantasies about the other mans orgasms...while he is ejaculating in the condom he will be imagining the lover ejaculating in your vagina with no protection...you will definitely feel the difference... he will most likely want to give you oral sex after his orgasm is over...this is a huge difference from the way men usually are falling asleep after sex...if you have a lover then even after his orgasm your bf or husband will be obsessed with the thought of the other man ejaculating inside you..its actually very natural for a man to want to taste the semen of his girlfriends or wifes lovers...actually its completely natural for men to want to fellate other boys and men and ESPECIALLY other guys who have ejaculated in his woman. my own clinical work shows this very specifically...once men are counseled to get over the homophobic unhealthy stereotypes theyve been taught since youth they eagerly suck the penises of their girlfriends or wifes lovers and swallow the semen...ive watched this hundreds of times in my clinical work..women love this so why not men? its perfectly natural and women who swing or have threesomes can confirm this...and the girls and women i counsel in my practice say that they were turned on much more than they ever dreamed by this...anyway its interesting but men arent usually interested in sucking the penises of men they dont know...only the ones they know have had sex with their girlfriend or wife and ejaculated in her or on her... there are many many studies that confirm this...its a very ancient throwback to civilizations when people lived more in communal groups and didnt have monogamous relationships and the problems that go with them....in those settings men and boys fellated each other regularly and were excited watching other men having sex with his woman...holding the penis and testicles of another man in his mouth and feeling his erection building and then the orgasm and swallowing the ejaculate lets a man evaluate his sexual prowess compared to other men in the area...and its a source of very important sexual relief and satisfaction even today... the primitive desire to taste and swallow semen from other men is partly because of submissiveness that comes out in group situations and partly because of the sexual excitement of seeing or thinking about another man having intercourse or getting oral sex from his gf or wife...its actually very important to the man and you should not ever embarras him about this desire of his which is totally instinctive and natural...its easier for him at the beginning to slurp the semen from your vagina because he doesnt have to confront this primitive desire directly like he would if he sucked your lovers penis...you should encourage him gently....for example after you come home from a lover who ejaculated in your mouth kiss your bf or husband warmly using your tongue...say something like: baby i was just with this guy...we were kissing and he was feeling my breasts and i got really turned on...and i decided i wanted to suck his penis so i did...i licked his testicles and sucked on his testicles and i licked his penis swirling my tongue around the head...and i kept him hard for a long time and when he finally came he yelled and i almost came with him...i held his throbbing penis in my mouth and i actually had to swallow 4 or 5 times to get all the semen down..i swallowed every drop and licked his penis clean..he was still cumming a little so i licked and sucked until he was done and completely flaccid...he actually pulled his penis out of my mouth cuz i didnt want it to end..i loved it and so did he....baby i need to masturbate and think about him now...baby its the truth....ill suck for him again as soon as i get a chance...and honestly if i kiss other guys who get me hot i plan to suck for them too...i love penises and seeing them get hard and i love giving head and i really really need this...let your bf or husband explore your mouth with his tongue while you open his pants and masturbate him slowly....he will instinctively search for the taste and youll get great deep kisses! if one of your lovers ejaculates in your vagina tell your bf or husband while hes having intercourse inside and close to orgasm...tell him about someone who ejaculated inside you and encourage him to lick your clitoris and the entrance of your vagina...guide him gently and encourage him...you will get alot of pleasure from the depth of the oral sex from his tongue that is searching for the sperm from the other man even though he doesnt realize it...this is a very ancient instinctive desire that has been part of human sexuality since the beginning...its totally natural and important for the man and nothing to be ashamed of...your bf or husband will be instinctively thinking about the other mans penis and testicles imagining their shape and size...wondering whos more masculine and virile...you should talk about the penises and testicles of all the men you go with and make comparisons with your boyfriend or husbands penis and testicles just matter of factly...be gentle and careful not to insult your bf/husband or hurt his feelings but just be open and honest and enthusiastic about the things you liked sexually with the lovers...for example if its true say his penis is a bit shorter and wider than yours and his testicles are really huge...i think its why he shoots so much cum when he ejaculates and whenever he comes inside me i feel wet for days and i usually end up masturbating a few times thinking about it...and you will both be very very aroused from the whole experience... while your bf or husband is inside you or while you are masturbating him or sucking his penis you should definitely mention how hard the other guy ejaculated in you but when hes down there licking you should be sensitive and not mention the actual idea that your bf or husband is eating the lovers semen... this is actually an extremely sexually arousing and sexually and emotionally satisfying time for him..giving head and tasting and swallowing the rivals mans semen is a very ancient basic sexual drive thats not satisfied enough today especially when women sometimes dont take lovers because of societal pressures...there is some research that men actually deeply need and crave this experience and it does seem to help in conception...anyway believe it or not he will actually be fantasizing not only about how it felt for the other man to reach orgasm and ejaculate inside you but he will also be fantasizing about actually being there while you have sex with the other guy.. he wants to participate in the sex and share the experience with you by sucking the other mans penis and testicles...licking his anus...and making your lovers orgasms even stronger so he can impregnate you...he will imagine what the other man feels inside you...so you need to be sensitive and careful not to ruin this pleasure...you should simply remind him how hard the lover ejaculated in your vagina because it will help and turn you both on...for example say the guy i was with this morning came so hard in my vagina i was dripping all the way home to you baby... and your bf or husband will understand instinctively and be very grateful about it. if only more people realized how natural it is for a girl or woman to need sexual connections with multiple male partners every relationship would be so much better and the people would be so much happier in their lives...remember for this program to work there can be no sex at all NONE without discussing your lovers and what you did together at the same time you are with your bf or husband...for you to be able to continue your relationship with your bf or husband and still have the natural freedom you need and deserve to have sexual pleasure with other men you have to condition your bf or husband to the new reality that other mens pleasure with you is the basis of his pleasure with you and there is never one without the other...you cant ever say this...you have to condition him to it by repeating the same patterns over and over again and again while giving him pleasure...and he will adjust quicker than you imagine.