Cheating or Not? Given an orgasm by someone other than your SO

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by realwrl, Apr 9, 2014.

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Given an orgasm without sexual contact - Cheating or Not?

  1. Cheating

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  2. Not Cheating

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  1. realwrl

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    If my husband had an orgasm like that from someone else I wouldn't consider it cheating.
     
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    Thanks for the response! Hoping to get some more people to chime in on this.
     
  4. HotForHoney

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    I think if you hide it, it's cheating.
    If you say, honey, I want to give a guy a blowjob and have an open relationship/conversation it's not cheating
    (Just my opinion)
     
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    I don't think that in any way this could be considered cheating, because as you say there was no physical sexual contact, or even intent from either party; massaged or masseur - it was just a physical reaction to in your case a very, perhaps unusual, spot being touched.
    Behind the knee is, or can be, a very erogenous zone. For those who have not tried it I suggest that you do.

    I've had very complete erection when certain spots on my lower back have been massaged and have been in no condition to roll over when requested.

    What you have experienced is/was no more than 'that spot in the brain' being triggered, by accidental contact.
     
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    Not at all. There was no intent on your part to be sexually aroused. You did not initiate any sexual contact. The masseuse did not intend for you to be sexually aroused either. Your body reacted to external stimuli.

    Not cheating
     
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    I agree never had a massage by a pro but I put it in the category. Of a wet dream type scenario so no cheating that I can see.
     
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    For me it is more important how my wife feels about it than how I feel. If she would feel it is cheating, then it is cheating. My Bunnie is admittedly "selfish" in that she doesn't want anyone else getting me off. But she will do whatever it takes to minimize that occurring. Maybe that makes me an "outlier" on this topic, since she so desires to be the one to give me orgasms that I'm not easily aroused by anything other than her.
     
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    This seems so simple to me... The definition of cheating , is breaking the rules. All relationships have different rules. So what's cheating to one.. Is not to another.
     
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