Cheater - would you tell ?

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  1. MissJuicy

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    ok basically it's the same as the title,

    if you knew someone was cheating and they were engaged would you tell the other person ?

    Do you think they deserve to know ?
     
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    My first thought was yes, but then I remembered two of my friends (one was about to move in with his GF and the other was engaged, messing around in the back seat of my car, and I've never told a soul.

    so....

    No, It's their own business. Who am I to judge?
     
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    I've been cheated on before (caused my divorce) and it was the girl he was cheating with who told me. I thanked her for it in the long run.

    Just wanted others opinions
     
  4. oldkid

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    If the person doing the cheating was supposed to marry my best friend, it would be tough, but I'd drop the dime. How could I go on knowing for the rest of whatever? My best friend deserves no less from me, even though it might wreck our friendship.
     
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    Tough situation. A buddy of mine cheated on his wife for a long time. His wife was a very sweet woman. Didn't deserve it at all( no one does). In the end I called him out on it. I told him he was wrong for doing it and he told me it was none of my business. So we stopped being friends.
    Watching him play perfect husband at get togethers and knowing what I knew pissed me off the most.
     
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    Thanks hon knew I could rely on you to give me good advice
     
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    Missjuicy... bear in mind that whatever you do, you will have to live with it, either way. It's not fair, but, that's the way it is. 69NEW.gif
     
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    I'm aware of the consequences but I can't let someone be led on and lied to.
     
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    I'd want to know so if I had hard proof, I'd tell.

    It's not just emotional. It could be a health concern too.
     
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    I've got screenshots where he admits to it details etc.

    I was glad I got told in the long run of things
     
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    If the person being cheated on was a friend of mine I would tell them. If not then I wouldn't.
     
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    Same as AGFUNK. I would tell if they were my friend if not then I would mind my own
     
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    AG I've known her maybe a year and only because of him, I feel like I owe it to her to let her know what's going on when she thinks everything is fine
     
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    I have girlfriends that always talk about going out with other "hot guys"
    "My boyfriend would hate me if he new"...... Then a week later "omg he kissed me"

    I always say "oh did you break up with your man?"
     
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    My ex husband was a cheating rat, we have a daughter together and now she doesn't want to see him,

    I've always been a great believer in "if you're not happy just leave"
     
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    Amen.

    I've stopped hanging out with friends because whenever we do it's a huge bitch session about their partner.. I always say "leave him he's a dick you can do better" but she'll always stay.

    Then when things are good between them doesn't want to know me.

    "Better not come over he's home" such bs
     
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    It depends on the circumstances and how close I was to the persons involved.
     
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    No! I mind my own business. Besides, it always leads to the informer becoming the bad guy.
     
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    I'm with the Ripper on this; in the end both parties will turn on the revealer almost as if it was his/her fault!
     
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    It's sad that this happens when the revealer was only trying to help :(
     
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