[Ask a Girl] Casual Sex

Discussion in 'Ask a Guy/Girl' started by JustSomeGuy, Sep 3, 2010.

  1. JustSomeGuy

    JustSomeGuy New Member

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    I'm a young man and I have a few questions for the ladies about casual sex...

    1) Is it... Creepy? Understandable? Pathetic? Other?

    Due to some emotional, mental, and financial problems of mine, I simply couldn't manage any kind of long-term relationship. Even casual dating or friends-with-benefits would be difficult to the point of impracticability. Even if you don't believe me, if you were to assume this is truly the case, my only options would seem to be casual sex and celibacy. Since celibacy sucks, I'd really like to just find a girl with whom I can spend an evening, once or maybe occasionally. Does this make me creepy? Does it help that I'd be happy to make a date out of it (with dinner, etc.) to make sure we like each other fairly well, or that I'd try my best to make it a mutually fulfilling encounter?

    2) Do girls ever enjoy or actually desire and seek out such things?

    I know that there are girls whose personalities and lifestyles (partying, clubbing, etc.) facilitate such encounters, but what about the other girls? What about the ones that you're most likely to see at the store, or the library, or around town, or whatever? Do they ever think about how long it's been and think it'd be nice to just spend some time with a guy satisfying some urges? Well, I imagine that there must be some girls like that, considering how many girls there are in the world, but how common is it?

    3) If so, what do you do about it?

    Do you ask your male friend if they want to come over? Do you hang out somewhere in the hopes that someone will try to pick you up? Do you invite hot strangers over to your place? Do you use the internet? Or do you just endure the "dry spell"? If you hang out someplace, how do I tell if you're there to be picked up or just to relax or whatever?

    Of course I'm hoping that something said in reply to my post will directly benefit me, but mostly I'm just curious, so don't feel obligated to give me advice.
     
  2. Barbwire

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    I think what you are looking for is called a prostitute. Go to Craigslist, the place is loaded with them.
     
  3. HardRocker

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    It's also called what every man, at one time or another, wishes the world was like.
    It's a reasonable assumption that there are many women having similar wishes. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to connect with one. If you go around stating your wishes, or if you decide to try an impromptu survey, that crosses the creep threshold and you're likely to eat a purse.

    Cl has a point. If you can afford it, there are some awesomely hot call girls.
     
  4. cbrmale

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    Here in Australia there were a lot of women looking for casual sex when I was young, and it's still the case today. Feeling horny, want some sex, but not necessarily a relationship. I used to pick girls up from a wine bar in Carlton which was a known spot for both sexes to seek one-night-stands, and much better ambiance than a noisy, smoky nightclub. But perhaps you live on the other side of the world from Carlton in Melbourne in Australia.

    Women seeking one-night-stands are still common today, as I mentioned, and the usual pick-up places would be pubs and nightclubs.

    The alternative is prostitutes and escorts, and I have been there a few times as well. The best sex that I have ever had was with escorts. If you've seen it, the TV show Secret Diary of a Call Girl is very close to the mark.
     
  5. Username1

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    I am assuming due to the financial remark that a prostitute is not what you are looking for. I have attempted to have a few one nighters through craigslist on different occations and did end up meeting a girl each time for some fun but for some reason the one night thing never stuck and it turned into more along the lines of your on occation comment. Not that it was bad of course :) two of them said they did it because they were to busy or didnt want a relationship and the third was a 43 year old that was a the tail end of a divorse and wanted "younger" guys. She was a blast by the way!
     
  6. pool_shark

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    I have had encounters with women that said they were perfectly ok with a sex only relationship.
    Of the ones I slept with, only 2 actually were ok with it, the others developed feelings.
     
  7. luvbug

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    Im not into casual sex. I just cant do it. I have to have a relationship with the guy before I will sleep with him. Im too afraid of catching a STD.