Casual sex - how to get started

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Sigh, Nov 21, 2014.

  1. Sigh

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    I lost my virginity (finally!) this year in April with my ex. We were together for 6 months and had an amazing and electric sex life. I've always had a high sex drive so it was a massive release to finally start having sex at 22!

    Now I've been single for almost two months and I'm badly craving sex. I doubt I'll be able to be in another relationship anytime soon so casual sex it is! I have consider sleeping with my ex but he's too attached to me still and I don't think it's fair to mess with his emotions.

    I'm not the most sociable person around so which is definitely holding me back right now. Also, I'm very paranoid about my reputation and people finding out about it. So I need advice on how to get it going.
    I'm not one to get attached to people and can separate sex with emotions.

    How was your first hook up? Do people use protection when giving a blow job? Is it usually at theirs or yours? Any advice about the kind of people to choose?

    Thanks
     
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    Go get a massage and ask for a happy ending?

    Try tinder.
     
  3. beth_deakin_uni

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    just invite them over and answer the door in a towel like just out of the shower.
    then casually drop towel by accident:}
    even if i don't want sex its fun answering the door in a towel haha
     
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    I need to knock on your door
     
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    I'll have a look at Tinder...
     
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    Where do you buy towels with doors?
     
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    Take Mitts advice and google it... image.jpg
     
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    You had to change to beach towel size since getting the new toy?????

    Why do I need to google it when somebody will do it for me?
     
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    image.jpg image.jpg
     
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    Thank you, enough already wit de towels.

    When you find one with a target on it saying "Squirt Here" please post again.
     
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    First, I HATE using a condon for blowjobs!! For me it defeats the purpose. I wanna feel that skin. And the tatse of even the flavored ones is pretty bad.

    As a woman, finding casual sex can be much easier than for a guy in all honesty. At times it's a dream come true for a guy to find a girl that JUST wants sex! Obviously it's important to try to find someone who isn't crazy or infected with a something. There's lots of ways to approach it, but try to stay out of your "pool" or area if you're concerned about people you know finding out about your casual encoubters.
     
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    i suck him without condoms on, my bf was married so he never got diseases:}
    i like some flavours of condoms but i try to avoid condoms once i know he's steady:}
     
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    Since when has been married stopped anybody getting diseases if they or their wife 'play around' (no beth I don't mean golf).
     
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    my bf told me he never slept without condoms and that his wife never cheated luckily for me.
     
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    never thought I'd say this mate but your loosing and loosing by a fair bit lol ;)
     
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    Please don't take offense, but I highly doubt that a man who is cheating on his wife is above lying to you.
    Don't take his word for it--make him show you some test results.
     
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    I don't think he has any tests, he doesn't go to uni anymore.
     
  18. Sigh

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    First of all, thanks for replying with a serious answer.
    I hate the idea of using a condom too and love giving blow jobs and swallowing but I don't want herpes or any other STI - I've very paranoid about that.

    I imagine so, but I make it hard for myself having such a specific taste in men (pun unintended!). I think finding someone out of my city would keep my mind at ease. Thanks for the advice
     
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    but he divorced his wife:}
    no cheating, he's all mine and we live together:}
     
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