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Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Oriana, Jul 31, 2006.

  1. Oriana

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    I'm one of the girls who found it hard to orgasm while pregnant. Now that I've had my son, we've had sex a few times but I can't get an orgasm. Though when we play around and he gives clitoral stimulation I can. Could it be that my body is still getting back to having him inside of me or what could it be?
     
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    One word.Hormones.Your body is probably still off balance.
     
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    And congrats!
     
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    I found it took about a year for things to feel "normal" again. Until my period got back on regular schedule, sex was a bit hit or miss for us. The hormones make a big difference.
     
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    I won't be getting my period anymore hopefully. I'm on depo now
     
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    I get almost there then my body gives up and starts all over again. By time I am ready to cum he's done and can't go any longer. I don't know what to do.
     
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    This is why foreplay is so important for women. It's said it takes women up to twenty minutes to reach orgasm from a non-excited state, whereas a man can reach orgasm in a much shorter time. Foreplay gives the woman her warm-up.
     
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    What are some things we could do as foreplay besides fingering?That's all he really does
     
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    An erotic massage comes to mind .... Maybe try laying down and just let him explore you with his kisses. Find something that turns you on and just ask him to incorporate it into his idea of foreplay. As always, communication is healthy.

    Thus Sayeth A-1
     
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    Well, there is oral foreplay, there is manual foreplay with the fingers, and there is manual foreplay with toys/objects.
     
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    ...I hope that's true,but just to fore-warn you...I was on it and my period disappeared for a month or two and came back stronger than ever.Also,be careful of the side effects(headache.stomach cramps,lack of sex drive).This obviously doesn't happen to all,but I just thought I should let you know.Good luck:)

    As for foreplay.I think oral is one of the best.Try 69,that always works!
     
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    Yes, do watch out the for the diminished sex drive. I was on depo for nine months and never had a period the whole time, but I did have weight gain, headaches, no sex drive, and acne. I was a mess and sex was the last thing on my mind.
     
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    Wow!Yes,how ddi I forget the acne and weight.
    But.I'm not knocking it. I know it does work for a lot of people too.
     
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    Thanks for the warnings. Those are some I did not know
     
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    But I DO hope it works to your advantage :)
     
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    thanx i want to get rid of the god awful thing
     
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    sexual foreplay starts the moment you talk or even before... just looking at eachother and knowing it.