Can't Cum. Porn Isn't Doing It.

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  1. Mongatron

    Mongatron New Member

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    Hey all:
    34 y/o gay guy in Tulsa here. My boyfriend just broke up with me last week. Long, emotional relationship of five years, but we're staying friends.

    My problem is that I've got blue balls big-time. I've got plenty of good porn, but nothing is making me cum. Even the little video him and I made isn't getting me to cum. I don't want to to go online to hook up, as easy as that would be.

    My question then would be what can I do to simply get off? I just need the release. If porn isn't doing it, then what could I try?

    I hate to say it, but I think that sex with him would be the only thing...
     
  2. fothermucker

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    Is the fact that you are still trying to get over the relationship with your ex working as a mental blocker? The most powerful sex organ is your mind, regardless of whether you are man or woman. If you have certain things on your mind, it can cause a problem similar to this. It may be worth looking into.
     
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    Im with FM on this one......it's hard to get inspired when you've still got that "sick-in-the-guts" feeling that comes with a broken relationship:ugh
    The urge and the ability will come back no risk....I can only say to give it some time mate.....:)
     
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    Give yourself time. The same thing has has happened to me.
     
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    I absolutey agree. A relationship breakup is like a mini bereavement, it knocks you sideways. You need time to heal. Everything will return in its own good time, hang on in there x
    Beth
     
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    Thank you all for your input. Yeah, I am in a mini-bereavement as Beth UK said. Plus I should factor in that I am on testosterone therapy which makes my libido cycles crazy. I've been able to masturbate to climax a couple of times since posting. I felt a little weird afterward. Don't know why. There's a lot more I could say about how much this breakup is affecting me, but we've all been there. I was going to ask him to marry me...
     
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    It sounds like you were very serious about this relationship. Give it some time, and let your wounds heal. You should find things returning to normal in no time. The testosterone therapy could have something to do with it as well, but that would be something to talk to your doctor about. Good luck with the healing process.:tup