Can't Cum During Sex

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Ant B, Feb 24, 2006.

  1. Ant B

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    Hello all. First Time Poster. Long Time Listener. Of sorts. Me and my fiancee have been together for 2 and a half years now and we have sex like normal couples but I can never cum during sex. I don't know what it is. We'll just be having the most passionate love of our life and I can't cum. Is there something wrong with me? Or something?
     
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    I'm curious about this too, my ex and I used to go at it for hrs and she could never cum during sex. She could with use of her vibrator or hands, but not during sex. Ive given other girls multiple orgasms, and shes slept with other dudes since we've been apart and she still can't acheive one during sex.
     
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    I wonder if the culprit could be masturbating :whoa
    You can get used to a certain feeling, and it could become necessary to feel that EVERY time in order to climax. The mechanisms they have out there now are pretty damn powerful. It's hard for a human partner to rival some of those feelings.

    Just a thought, but what if the one having trouble were to refrain from masturbating, and using vibrators for a period of time, perhaps regular sex would then produce an orgasm. Even refrain from sex in general for a time (LOL - did I just say that?) - but this will enhance your appreciation of every touch and action, once you both DO come together. From there, you can work on what works for both of you to achieve total satisfaction from your lovemaking.
     
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    I agree with Rose.I had a few guy friends previously complain of the same problem and when they stopped mastubating so regularly,they were able to climax a lot easier.(This applies to men and women).What you need is the anticipation to make it good.
     
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    I think its a mental thing. Sometimes when you think too much about trying to cum, you can cause a mental block and you dont end up cumming. Focus on the feeling. Or try to think of something that turns you on like maybe some porn you seen recently or something. Another thing that might work is if your doing your girl doggy style, get some dirty magazine and put it on her back and use it as a table and just start reading while yoru doing the deed, after a few pages your bound to cum. lol
     
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    Read a magazine while having sex? Sheesh! It's bad enough that my wife watches TV! (At least with that she can CLAIM that she's not watching.)

    Ant B,
    I'm with Rose. (Well, not WITH her. Calm down Thorn.) If you masturbate, STOP IT! That's a common problem. Abstain from porn and masturbation for a month or so, and you'll probably see a big improvement. If that can't be the problem, let us know.
     
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    I have to ask. What does she watch?
     
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    Desperate Housewives of course ....
     
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    Nothing in particular. We usually go to be with the TV on, so whatever happens to be on when we get started stays on. She claims she doesn't watch.
     
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    Well at least she doesn't channel surf during sex. :lol
     
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    Hey Ant B - can you cum from masturbation? How do you masturbate (what technique)?

    It is also possible that you are subconsiously afraid of getting her pregnant.

    What are you using for birth control?

    Do you try varied positions?
     
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    Thorn, you found the silver lining. THAT would be the end of the fun! :bang
     
  13. Ant B

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    Well I hope that this reply will help you guys out. I mean I was a chronic hardcore masturbator. Like 3 - 7 times a night because I would be super horny and I don't live with my fiancee so it's a do or die situation. Now I am in die. Because I am not going to masturbate for 90 days. Plus it only takes 21 days to make a habit and I am on day 22. I don't really want it more then her. But then again when I masturbated it was to the thought of her. Yeah...
     
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    when u wank do u use the grip of death? if u do then u prob wont be able to get off from sex until ur penis relearns
     
  15. igor

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    Yes, Kai, that may be part of his problem. You get used to a certain feel, especially if you do it a lot, and a different sensation just may not get you there. I think taking a break from it for a while may help.