Good evening from chilly Sheffield, England! I've been out with a lady a few times, and the last couple of weekends, I've stayed at her house for the night. Things have been going great - she's cooked and fed me, we have a few things in common and have similar senses of humour. However, sex has reared it's head, and she's managed to freak me out with it. This seems to be a recurring thing with different women I meet: We get on great, have nice times, and it's usually me who's pursued them, which means I must find them attractive. Yet, last night, because I was too tired to have sex and just wanted to sleep (we'd done it the night before, and that morning, so it's not as if we were never having it!) due to getting up early-ish after a late night, the immortal question of 'do you still fancy me?' came out. Bearing in mind we've only been 'seeing' each other for just over a month, I haven't had time to go off her, if indeed I ever would! She's gone from being this amazingly confident, mature (she's 38, I'm 32) and carefree lady to an insecure teenager. I'm starting to think it's something I'm doing as this is about the third or fourth woman that's done it to me. She seemed offended when I asked if she was being serious. I was just so taken aback by such a question, not to mention tired, that I couldn't think of any other reaction. She also kept apologising for being 'rubbish' yesterday because we didn't do anything all day. I went and got papers in the morning, then lounged about watching tv, drinking tea, eating and talking... which I kept trying to tell her was like a perfect Saturday for me, but she didn't seem to accept that I was being truthful. Just when I think I've found an emotionally stable lady, she ends up like all the rest! What do I do?