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  1. Lover4You

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    Friend diagnosed w cancer. Advice?
     
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    I am so sorry to hear that. My first thought is that hopefully you know what kinds of things make the person feel loved and that you could use them in this scenario as well.
     
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    Just be supportive. Be the friend that you always have been. Ask what they need from you.
     
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    Hope for the best, cause it's terrible shit.
     
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    What type & where?
    Not all are deemed a death sentence these days; some are quite curable but of course not all :(
     
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    She said it is above and below the diaphragm. From what I remember she said a level 3 or 30a, something with a three. I was shocked so the memory is a little fuzzy.
    Guess she is going on an 8 week intensive chemo therapy here soon in hopes to get rid of it.

    Idt its hit me yet cuz I can't seem to tell how I'm feeling about it. Or maybe I just figure I should focus on her, not me.
     
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    So lung Ca or something else and what is her approx age?
    All these things have significance.
     
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    Father goes in the 19th for prostate cancer. Mother in law had lung cancer. Wifes cousin had breat cancer, and she's almost exactly the same age as my wife and it was about 7 yrs ago. Be there for them, chemo is some nasty shit. She'll wish she was dead for a while, so she'll need all the support and help around the house she can get.
     
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    She is 22.
     
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    Thanks. It's good to hear from someone who has been in the same spot as me.
     
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    its Hodgkin lymphoma stage 3. sorry for spelling.
     
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    Im sorry to hear that. Too young, but hopefully she will pull through and enjoy life that much more for the rest of her days.
     
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    That is what my friend's husband had, and he is cancer free. I know we don't get into religion on this forum, but I will pray for your friend.
     
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    That's great! I'm believing she will be cancer free. I think at this point, the chemo is the biggest hurdle.
    I appreciate prayer 100%. Thank you!
     
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    My close friend has recently battled Hodgkin lymphoma and now is fine. Besides just letting him know I was there for him as needed and offering to help with any chores there wasn't a lot else I could do. Because he took a lot of time off work he was often bored and just needed me around for company while his partner was working.
     
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    Have your friend talk to her doctor about marijuana. At the least, it can help ease some of the symptoms of the chemo. At best, it will help to control the cancer. Medical marijuana is best ingested, as opposed to inhaled, and it may take a little while to get the dosage right.
     
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    Ok, that one I know; will email stuff for you.
     
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    My friend is a habitual dope smoker and had to cut back during treatment.