Can men and women be just friends?

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  1. xtacy4

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    Just looking for some thoughts and opinions on whether you think platonic opposite sex relationships are truly possible? :)
     
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    Err , long lasting ones from childhood , they definitely can stay platonic for always.

    Just my quick thought for now. About to eat dinner very soon.
     
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    No, sex always gets in the way. One or the other wants more.
     
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    I think it's possible, depending on who the man and woman are. However, not likely probable.
     
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    Most of the friends I've had throughout my life have been guys. I can count the number of the ones I've dated or hooked up with on one hand and same goes for the ones that had any sort of feelings for me, so I'd say it's very possible.
     
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    Why don't you think it's probable? Just curious.
     
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    So, you think sexual desire gets in the way of really being friends? There are no women that you see as a great person, but don't want to jump their bones?
     
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    I have had male friends since high school, and they are still great friends,and sex never got in the way.
    sorry but I think it's crazy if you think you can't have a friend without wanting sex with them
     
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    I know lots of women, however, how are we defining friends?
    I know lots of great women, but that does not mean we are friends. What I am saying is that if you think you have a good friend of the opposite sex and you are not interested in them sexually, they probably are to you. Men will lie to extend the opportunity and act like they are not.

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201304/can-men-and-women-be-just-friends
     
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    Sooooo you're telling me men are opportunistic a-holes?! Lol jk. Hmm interesting.
     
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    I think it is easier for women to think it is possible because they do not fully realize how men are. It is possible for women to be friends with people they are not attracted to, however I think the men are attracted to them or vice versa.
     
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    That's not exactly what I said. Lol
     
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    you should speak for all men,not all men are like that (thank God)
     
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    completely agree.
     
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    No, it's all good. I'm interested in different opinions!
     
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    Personally, I'm struggling with this question at the moment.
     
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    I think some people.. do actually think guys are attracted to every woman around long term friends the lot! lol My mind an dick aren't attracted sexually to every female I know. lol

    It's definitely possible to have even a 'hot' friend and not want sex with her. Like i've said also it can definitely depend on when this friendship started how it started e.t.c
     
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    I think it is possible, even with sexual tension, but infinitely harder for men. First off, to the ladies who had/have a bunch of male hetero friends, most or all want to have or have had wanted sex with you. It's all about how that tension is handled in either side, that determines if a friendship is possible. It hearkens back to philosophy I have about men and women and sexual interaction: That when it comes to sex, only women are seen as human beings, men are instead human "doings". That which makes a woman sexually attractive typically stems from their physicality, whilst a mans deeds, works, and attitudes is what is most attractive to women. Generally speaking, of course.
    So upon first sight, or in seeing you in evening wear, underwear, or a swimsuit, he is sexually attracted, the trick is she doesn't flaunt said attraction as power, jokingly or otherwise. I've had many female friends, 75%of which I found physically attractive, our friendships endured due to my maturity, and their respect of the friend/boyfriend boundary.
     
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    sorry I meant to say shouldn't
     
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    I guess that would be more from the male side than the female. I think the ladies would be able to handle the friendship only thing but the guy, not so much.
     
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