Can masturbation desensitize you to sex?

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  1. ODave39

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    Can masturbation desensitize you to sex with a partner?

    I masturbate once or twice a week on average.....having some difficulties with my partner..wondering if there might be a link......
     
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    Depends on what kind of difficulties you mean. I'm familiar with some studies that have shown excessive masturbation can reduce sensitivity, ability to achieve an erection, etc, but in your case the amount of masturbating you're doing isn't really excessive. The guys in the study were masturbating four or fives times a day. Once or twice a week is normal to below average for most men so there might be another cause. You might want to consult a urologist about it.
     
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    I can say from experince no it doesnt 40 years almost everyday still works fine for me, I would say you might have another problem ask your Doc
     
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    Be more specific on the "difficulties" you are having. Could be nothing more than performance anxiety.
     
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    I'd have to disagree with the majority here and say that it CAN make a difference, especially if you're masturbating within 24 hours or so before sexual connection with your wife, and even moreso if there's a lot of friction with the masturbation.

    Everyone is a little different. Some guys, especially those in their teens and twenties, can have sex 5-10 times per day. For them a wack job once or twice a week probably won't make a bit of difference. Others, especially those of us pushing 40, 50 or :ugh 60, take awhile to recuperate after sex. I can have sex several times per day (especially with a little help from Dr. Viagra), but I'll probably only orgasm once – twice at the most – in a 24-hour period. The only time I masturbate is when my wife is having her period and I know we won't be having sex for at least a couple days.
     
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    Thanks for the responses....

    The "difficulties" can be best be described as ED....very simply I have a difficult time getting and/or keeping an erection. It isn't a lack of desire, and after having been with my partner several times, I'd think performance anxiety wouldn't be that much of an issue anymore. I have been to a doctor, they did blood tests, which appear normal. I was given a sampler of Viagra, which works sometimes. I have also used Cialis in the past(different relationship). I did not like the "feel" of the last Viagra induced erection(it just seemed weird..difficult to describe).

    I have done some reading and suspect there are other psychological factors involved, though I can't quite pinpoint them. I asked the question I did, because I've noticed that as of late my "fantasies" to j/o need to be more elaborate and to some extent kinkier to achieve an erection and cum.

    The thought occured to me that perhaps I have "desensitized" myself to normal sexual stimulus. Wondering how to get it back.....
     
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    If the passion is there but just not the blood flow, stick with one of the big three ED pills; that's exactly what they're for. I've taken all three and have no idea what you're referring to when you talk about the "feel" of the erection being different. I've never noticed anything different, other than it gets a little harder and lasts a little longer.

    If you're expecting or fearing that you won't get/stay hard, you probably won't. Sometimes I wonder how much of the Viagra benefit is psycological -- when I take it I *know* I'll have a raging woody, so I do. It gives me confidence that everything will work like it did 40 years ago, and the confidence helps make it so. Self doubt works the opposite way.

    I'd stick with the ED pills for starters. Cialis is supposed to last longer; Levitra is supposed to kick in a little quicker. If you don't need the largest dose available, cut them in half or quarters until you find the right dose for you. Good luck!
     
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    Hi Dave,
    I agree with Joe on this and btw I have/had the same problem.
    If you don't want to use ED medication then try a "cock ring" which is simply a mechanical ligation placed around the erect penis which slows blood flowing away from your engorged member. There are many kinds but mine is just a rubber tube with a quick release and fully adjustable in seconds.
    It works a treat and my partner thinks it cute that Mr Dick is wearing a fluorescent orange tie!
    In my case and many other ageing men the ED problem is caused by a leaking blood vessel valve controlling the blood pressure of the penis.
    It is just mechanical fatigue problem which if not attended to or work around found can cause sex problems and psychological issues.
    You have found a temporary remedy by extra stimulation with more erotic fantasies causing higher raised blood pressure but ultimately this too will fail.
    I personaly accept the fact that my body is not what it once was but happy that I can still enjoy frequent sex even with a little help.
    Hope this helps.
    :toast
     
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