This is a serious question. Can you be actual friends with a woman, not friends with benefits, and have no sexual attraction at all to her and still find her interesting and fun to hang out with? And if you do have feelings for a friend, are you able to move on and still be friends with them if they reject you? Because I have not found anyone who was able to (or perhaps willing to) remain friends with me after I've rejected them. Maybe I'm doing something wrong and it's not them. When I was put in the same situation (I once fell for a gay guy and didn't realize he was gay at first) I was able to forget about it, move on and just be friends and as soon as we developed a friendship I lost all sexual attraction to him. I really like sex, but when I'm friends with someone the thought of having sex with them grosses me out because they are like family to me. Even if I do find them attractive at first, as soon as we become just friends, I somehow lose the ability to be attracted to them in that way. I've befriended guys all my life because I'm a tomboy but my friendships have never worked out because my friends always end up either wanting sex or a relationship with me. After I tell them I'm not interested in that, they get mad and leave. I've gone to such lengths as to befriend really old men and married men and they still end up not being able to be my friend because they develop feelings for me or sexual attraction gets in the way. Maybe they never were my friend to begin with, I just thought or hoped they were, but maybe they were always hoping it would turn into something more and maybe they were just pretending to be friend to impress me or something. For example, the last friend that asked me out recently, I was friends with him for 2 years. He is 50 years old and has not aged well. I'm just saying that, because I would never be sexually attracted to an old man like that in the first place, he's the same age as my parents and that just disgusts me. He has a head injury and I just thought he was a nice, decent person to be around. I met him on craigslist under the strictly platonic section, and made it really clear from the start that I was not interested in a relationship or sex, just because I know a lot of pervs hang out on craigslist. I was looking for a kayaking partner for a kayaking trip, and we developed what I thought was a really healthy friendship, we would go kayaking, then once winter came around we would go to the gym, motivate each other to be healthy and workout and up to the pool. I felt comfortable being in a bikini around him because he was old and I assumed he would never be attracted to me and also he never once gave me the impression that he was attracted to me. He even insulted my appearance a few times, which made me feel comfortable around him. But then just the other day he asked me out. Actually I'm not sure if he was asking for sex or a relationship, because he worded it like "I have a random question I've been wanting to ask you for a long time. Have you ever thought about the two of us?" And I had to reject him and he was very upset. I tried easing the blow by saying "I'm just not interested in anyone right now" which isn't true, but the truth would have hurt him even more. Honestly, I'm really mad that he would even think he had a chance with me and that he would sacrifice our friendship to ask a stupid question like that, when I have NEVER once given him the impression that I was interested in him in that way.