My friend and I have had a debate recently, and I'd like to know what others here think. Is it okay to break off a relationship over email? I ask this because my friend has decided that she doesn't want to continue in her current relationship and she's concerned about the best way to approach the break up. Now, she is really bad at handling herself in an in-person, one-on-one confrontation. She gets mixed up and forgets what her main points are, she loses her train of thought, etc. Afterward, she invariably thinks back and remembers all the things she should have said that would have made her position clearer. But, she is very good at expressing herself in written form. Now, I myself prefer the in-person, conversational approach to these things because I can handle myself really well. And I used to believe that was the best and only way. But in her case I think it would be better if she wrote him an email. Her soon to be ex has a strong personality that will probably blast her out of the conversation if she does this in person, and she'll get all disoriented and won't be able to properly explain herself. But she is resistant to the idea of breaking up over email because its "against the rules" and "you're just not supposed to do that. Everyone knows this." Now, why is this? Why is there this idea out there that the only fair and legitimate way to break up is face-to-face? Where did this "code of ethics" for breaking up come from? I realize that sometimes the email approach is used as a cowardly means of avoiding personal conflict, but in my friend's case I feel that it's a matter of using a means of communication that she is better suited for. So yeah...What's wrong with breaking up over email?