I need to know everyone's opinion....Here is the situation. We are in mid-40s and our sex routine seems to have gotten boring. Typical routine in bed consists of cuddling, holding, kissing, then I go down on her and usually she climaxes that way while on her back. This can last about 20 minutes or so...Then, she will suck me a few times and then ready for missionary, and then I cum.. That is pretty much the way it has been for a few years now. Problems I have with it include going somewhat soft while licking her, lack of that spark to really get me/keep me aroused. I'm sure she is less than pleased too, but says nothing about the routine...PLEASE give me your blunt thoughts on this...Surely there is more to great sex than this! I don't think she is willing to try anything new either, but what do you all think? Is this a lame sex routine or what?