I hope this thread doesn't die a quick death. I think it will say a lot about where you're coming from here. If it didn't influence your thinking, and if it didn't influence, that will say something too. I'll start: She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Kerner, Ian Kind of repetitive, but enlightening in ways, not everything is gospel, reinforced my thinking. There are others I have read, and will post later if there's any interest shown in this thread.