[Ask a Girl] Bondage

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  1. BigGreekD

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    Do girls like being controlled or being the controller?

    I can do either but I want to know what some girls think so i can spend more time making Her happy
     
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    Depends on the girl. Ask yours, and pay attention to what she says.
     
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    That would be a good idea. Then again I feel like I should know these things, so I came here and im embarrassed to ask
     
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    I like being controlled

    it really is a conversation you need to have.. if you're too embarrassed to actually ask.. send her a sexy email or text and ask/discuss a fantasy.. my man and I do this sometimes =)
     
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    Thats a good idea. disguise the question in a sexy message. I guess its all about presentation so it doesnt get awkward or anything
     
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    I've found if I approach it as a fantasy such as

    "hey baby! I'd love for you to handcuff me and have your way with me tonight"

    the response is either good or bad

    or something like "hey baby, I'm laying in bed, thinking about you tying me up and having your way with me" (can of course add more details ;) )
     
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    Just this past weekend, Steve came up with a great idea for us. We were talking about some of the stories of our exploits :) that I've shared on this forum and how much I've enjoyed writing them. He came up with the idea that, instead of talking out my fantasies beforehand and trying to make them happen (I feel like that kind of takes something away from it sometimes, depending on what they are), that I'd just write a sexy story about something I'd LIKE to happen. He'd read it and then make it happen for me at some time very soon. :D. I'm quite excited to get this started, and I can already tell it's something I'm going to be recommending to people struggling with communicating their fantasies.

    Woo!
     
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    I think most women prefer being controlled, I like both mainly beig controlled. But if she has a strong dominanting personality then she might prefer being in control ;)
     
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    This question is like asking, "Do women like apple juice or orange juice?"
     
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    I could not agree more!
     
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    This sounds like great fun. I might borrow this idea if you don't mind
     
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    haha!
     
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    it really depends on my mood. i dont prefer one or the other, i like them both. sometimes i want to be dominated and used and abused but other times i like to be able to show my partner how i take control. either way, my man is gonna be happy