Bondage questions

Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by Barbwire, Aug 26, 2007.

  1. Barbwire

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    I admit to being somewhat, no completely, ignorant about bondage. I've seen some pics and vid clips that show men and women tied up, but what I want to know is, how do you do it in the first place? I mean, do you just tie the person up and they let you, or do you pretend to take them against their will and wrestle with them before you tie them up? Once tied up, do you prefer they fight it a bit, or just lie there all restrained and submissive?

    For the people that are tied up, what do you prefer, a good bit of rough play before being tied up, or just you presenting yourself to your partner to be tied? Do you like to fight at the binds or give in easily?
     
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    Well, it really all depends at what type of role playing that is going to go along with it. First you generally discuss your scene before you start. You talk about what you are going to do and what your two boundaries are. You can start out rough and force (play) tie and have them fight against their will. Or you can ease into it slowly putting restraints on and kiss and caress all over their body. I will send you a pm with a wedsite that I love.
     
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    I'm just going down this road myself but I'm guessing being totally in the dark heightens the senses and makes it a little more of the unknown. Restraints play into a submissive role of being taken. I'm still experimenting and learning but the restrained person does it voluntarily and isn't forced (unless that turns them on). After blindfold and restraint teasing, foreplay and intercourse :shrug I'm sure its like everything else and there are basic and hardcore levels to go about it.

    Liberator has some really nice starter playful type restraints.

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    CL try kink.com
     
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    Its usual for both partners to talk about said subject, see if both enjoy the idea, and then both take the next step..
     
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    Great subject, Cowboy Lover.

    I've never done this, but the idea does appeal to me in a playful, role-playing way. Based on the pictures that MikeDog posted, I find the idea very arousing. I had never thought about the darkness aspect--that makes it even more enticing to me.
     
  7. Barbwire

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    Ok, so I've looked into some of the bondage sites on the internet, and frankly, that shit scares the poop out of me! :eek

    I still have a fantasy about being chased around a bit, caught, then tied up and blindfolded, but I sure as hell don't want to be ball-gagged, spead eagled over a wine cask and beat with a cat-o-nine-tails. :ugh
     
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    I agree CL, I plan on staying non-hardcore and basic too.
     
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    Guffaw!


    ...Ok, that was funny!

    From my end, I like it once in awhile. Here's all I've ever done;

    Tie the robe tie around her eye's (blindfold).

    Use the robe tie to tie her hands behind her back. Hey, robe ties are convenient!

    Simply hold her down, by her wrists in missionary.

    None of it's tight or very forceful at all except the missionary thing where it's easy to just hold her wrists over her head. It's hard to not use some force.

    So much for bondage in my life. :lol
     
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    We got a little cat o nine tails from spencer gifts for Christmas once.... it actually doesn't really hurt and we use it playfully.

    But I know what your overall point was...
     
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    Yeah most the stuff at spencers is pretty shitty, however I can't go to a normal porn store because of my age.
     
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    If anything, just a touch of bondage is all you need really. Some cuffs, or wall cuffs are probably the most a lot of people would do, myself included. Also, and I know this because of my girl, that a lot of the time, bondage can be used for reverse submission, like taking the dominant one out of the dominant position. She gets so incredibly turned on when she lightly restrains me and I break out and take over. I like it too. :D