Body Hair Questions/Preferences/Solutions

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  1. singlemale86

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    I've got a few questions for folks (guys mostly) that have experience in this area.

    First off (for the ladies I guess) is there anybody out there that is totally put off by body hair (predominantly chest hair)? And I'm not talking like a little tuft between your pex, I mean like collarbone to crotch overgrowth. I don't mean like hair so thick you can't see the skin beneath. Just the fact that it covers a large area of your frontal area.

    I've heard girls talk before of how they don't like body hair (paricularily hairy chests, backs or armpits). Is this true or is it mainly a "preference" kind of thing?
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    For the guys:

    For those of you that have a woman (or had) that wasn't a fan of your body hair (chest, back w/e) what did you do about it? Did you shave it, trim it or just breakup with her (lol).

    Seriously though, when it comes to managing large amounts of body hair (whether in thickness or the area that it covers) what is the best solution?

    In my case, I have a large area of my front covered in chest hair (like I said before, collarbone to crotch). For about 2 1/2 years now, I've taken to shaving it off (sounds weird I know). But it works for me. The point when I'd had enough was when I was about 18 (before my first body shave) and I'd gone swimming at a family gathering. At this point in time I was pretty well endowed with chest hair. It wasn't thick or curly or overgrown, just long thin and covering my entire front. It didn't look unnatural or anything, just kind of embarassing. Anyways, i started getting razzed by my family members about my "manly chest hair". At that point I decided I'd had enough and decided to shave it all off.

    I'm glad I tried it, only the problems I've encountered are probably nothing more than the norm. Shaving the entire area leaves you feeling like you've rubbed poison ivy all over your midsection after about 1 or 2 days (right after you step out of the shower it feels great!). Plus, it only takes about 4 or 5 days for the stubble to show up again.

    My question for the guys (that practice bodily hair removal) is this:

    What's the best method for removing unwanted hair (whether by your preference, your spouse or both)?
    -Shaving (razer or electric trimmer)
    -Waxing
    -Laser Hair removal
    -chemical treatments (i.e. Nair products)

    What has worked for you guys?

    Thanks for the tips guys,
    Cheers
     
  2. Rose

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    If it is not in the crotch area... I love hair. sometimes, I will just muffle my face in Thorn's chest hair... it is very sexy to me.
     
  3. HerHubby

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    Sometimes I wish that I had a secret camera with which I could watch Rose and Thorn as they make love to each other! I bet recordings of them would win porno film awards, ha, ha!

    As for hair, I do have some hair on my front as well as in my public area. I am glad that my wife likes it because while I might have tried shaving it, if she had wanted me to, for a while, eventually I would have just let nature take over and let my hair grow back. I understand if people, these days, want to shave their body and pubic hair. If that's what they want to do, it's certainly entirely up to them. I just don't think that I could keep doing that for any long length of time whether or not my wife wanted me to or not. That's just me, what you do, dear reader, is up to you. Anyway, one winter, back when we were childless, my wife complained of dry skin and razor burn on her legs and underarms. I told her "Well, since you are going to be wearing dark, thicker stockings and pants and long sleeved shirts for the rest of the winter, just don't shave your legs or underarms for the rest of the winter. So, she quit shaving and went natural. I thought that it was sexy and enjoyed it and it gave her skin a break from shaving. I told her that I didn't care if she never shaved again, although it was up to her, however, when it got warmer she started shaving again. Also, as it happens, I have a beard which I have had for many years. I started growing it quite some time before my wife and I were married. Shaving every day used to really tear up my face - as my Mom used to say, "the skin on your face is as tender as a baby's butt!" - gosh, thanks Mom! SIGH! So, instead of always tearing up my face and getting cuts, I grew a beard, found I liked it, thought I looked better with it (others agreed - gee, THANKS folks!, ha, ha!) so I have kept it. My wife has always liked it. So, anyway, hair is hair. If ya wanna shave it, go ahead, just try not to cut anything off! But if you don't wanna shave it, unless you are in the military, people should accept that. Whatever!
     
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    It really shouldn't be too big of a deal on your chest if it isn't just pure undergrowth.

    As for down under, shaved CLEAN for guys and girls both is the way to go.
     
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    Hair is something we all have to put up with, it's natural and normal.
    Mrs E and I have only ever trimmed our pubes and only one woman I've ever had sex with has been shaven, but I can't say I was overly impressed.

    If you're not monkey man, don't worry too much!
     
  6. heelfetish

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    I have my chest, back & shoulders waxed, and I shave my pubic region (front & back). On rare occasions I also shave my legs. Besides the obvious reasons for doing so (see my avatar), I honestly hate body hair. I love being smooth, and I love how it feels under my clothes and in bed. All my senses are heightened when I'm hairless, I can feel so much more.

    For the itching after shaving, one product that I find works for me is called Bikini Zone. It's a topical ointment that you apply to your pubic area after you shave, and a couple times a day until after re-growth appears. It doesn't smell the greatest, but it sure helps with ingrown hairs, itching, and reducing red bumps.

    Another product I use on my chest & back is called Tend Skin. It helps with the same problems, only it's more for your whole body. I've used it for a year now with great results.
     
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    Didn't everyone notice that singlemale86 is looking for suggestions as to what others think about body hair and not just how to remove it?
     
  8. heelfetish

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    I read that he was looking for answers on both aspects. :shrug
     
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    I agree with Rose - No crotch hair !
    (or at least, nicely trimmed)
    Other than that...makes no nevermind to me!
    Although, he does have to have it on his head;
    so I can pull his hair too! :brow
    ~Bella
     
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    Oooh yeah long hair like this.......(I do actually like it a LOT longer, but he is so gorgeous, I couldnt resist choosing him)...

    D r o o l ....
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  11. singlemale86

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    When you wax your chest and back etc., how long does it last as compared to shaving (how long before it grows back, or at least until the stubble is visible again). Is it painful? I've seen enough "Funniest Home Videos" of guys having chest wax done to assume that it might hurt just a little. But does it have a lot to do with the length of the hair? I've heard that if you're waxing shorter stubble it's not nearly as painful as pulling out the 2 inch long hairs.

    If you suggest waxing, any good products you could recommend? Ones that are simple to use, easy to clean up, not too messy etc.

    I like the idea about the "Tend Skin" product. The itching and red bumps have always been a problem for me.

    As far as how it feels, I don't really mind the feeling of hair. I just don't want to look like "monkey man" (as somebody put it before, lol) when I go swimming. I remember watching Seinfeld one time, hearing Kramer go "oh don't shave it Jerry, it'll just grow back thicker, longer and darker..."(LOL).

    I don't think I could ever shave my legs. The chest is a little more inconspicuous, but if I did my legs everybody would know and I don't think I could take that kind of razzing. I'd never live it down. Where I come from, guys just don't shave their legs (they don't really shave their chest/pubic zone either but they're not going to find out about that...)

    Thanks for the tips,
    Cheers,
    SM
     
  12. heelfetish

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    I could talk about this for hours. :)

    First off, I want to assure you that it's the same here. If people were to find out about my hairlessness, I'd be the subject of ridicule as well. That's why my legs only get shaved a few times each year, and never during the summer. :( The rest, as you say, is generally more acceptable, or they'd never notice.

    With waxing, I find I get about 2 weeks before any re-growth appears. I get re-growth within a day or 2 with shaving. It's an old wives tale about hair growing in thicker. It will appear so at first though, since the hair will be of uniform length. With repeated waxing, the hair growth will become more sparse as the roots weaken. This will make your return visits much less painful than the first time. It will also help lessen the appearance of re-growth.

    If you have long hair, it's best to trim it with some clippers or scissors before getting waxed. About 1/4" - 1/2" is a good length for waxing.

    I don't even try to wax myself at home. I did it once, but never again. Having it done professionally is much much better, easier, and really not that expensive. Doing it myself I found messy, slow and painful. I waited too long between pulls. If you're going to go the waxing route, I'd go to a salon. If you insist on doing it yourself, I find hot wax to be the most effective. :)

    As for Tend Skin, it's a great product, but difficult to find. I had to order it off ebay. I'm a member of a hair removal forum, and Tend Skin was highly recommended there. But really, there's no replacement for proper hygiene. That means showering each and every day, exfoliating 1-2 times each week, and using a good body wash & moisturizer.

    I think I answered all of your questions. If not, or if you have any more, just reply here again. I'm no expert, but I do a fair amount of hair removal for a guy. :lol
     
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    I must admit that I haven't read a single word on this thread. Once I saw the gorgeous young man in the picture that Scorp posted, all my blood went from my brain into my clit. I can't read when I'm in this state. I can't believe that I can even type, for crying out loud! Somebody, hose me down. YOWZA!
     
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    GET OFF....I SAW HIM FIRST!!!! haha!!!

    He is adorable though isnt he...will we create a thread especially for gorgeous men....what do you say girl?

    Now can you see why I love younger men....oh man!!!
     
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    ooooh a Calvin Klien guy.
     
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    There are a few people that know that i shave my chest (i.e. my sisters and family, and possibly their friends but that's all). I'd prefer it stay that way. It's hardly fair, my situation actually. The way I was before I was being made fun of for having such a hairy chest and stomach (again, not thick just covering a large area). Now I don't really get made fun of for that anymore, but if people found out that I shave my chest I'd probably get made fun of even more. There's just no pleasing some people...
    Well, good to know about the hair being thicker/longer/darker. Though I've got to say, if I can't wax myself at home, then I'm not doing it. I don't think I could bring myself to go to a salon and tell them i'm getting waxed. It might be easier for you man (being a bit of a crossdresser and all), but coming from my side I'm completely masculine and there is no sense of femeninity. And my desire to be smooth doesn't stem from wanting to "feel smooth" or anything, I just don't want to look like a bear everytime I go out swimming.

    Plus, it's all well and good to hear women on this forum (ages 25 to whatever) say that they like hairy guys. But it has been my experience that when I am walking around in a pair of swim trunks at the pool, you're not gonna attract the attention of the hot 18 year old girls (i'm still young, give me a break) if you look like uncle caveman. Most (if not all) of th girls I know are put off by hairy guys. It was enough of an incentive for me to get rid of most of my fur.
    Do you have any other suggestions for home waxing? Like how to prepare your body for it (shower, trimmed hair)? Any particular brand to suggest? Proper technique?
    If this product is hard to find, can you reccomend anything else that may do the trick or something like it? How about "Goldbond Medicated Itch Powder/Lotion" or any other itch powder/cream? Will this help with the itching? Or is there another brand you can think of (remember i'm from Canada, if it's hard to find in the states, it's probably equally if not harder to find for me)

    Thanks again for all the tips, it's kinda nice to know that there's other people out there with similar attitudes to me about a subject like this. It's nice to have questions answered without being judged for their content.

    Cheers,
    SM
     
  17. heelfetish

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    Hey, I'm from Canada too. :p Tend Skin isn't hard to find, you just probably won't find it in a local store. If you don't mind shopping online, you won't have any problem. I got mine off ebay.

    I hear you about people being hard to please. However I hope you're going this route because it's something that you want to do, rather than to please someone else.

    As for going to a salon, I assure you that I am very masculine. I'm 6'1" and 200 lbs. Aside from when I'm dressed, there is nothing feminine about my body. Nobody outside of my wife and this forum know that I dress, and I only dress in private. Many men have their back & shoulders waxed. It's a very normal request. Chest waxing is a little less popular, but certainly not limited to crossdressers or 'metrosexuals'. Just pick up a catalogue or magazine, and see how many hairless men grace the pages.

    If you aren't comfortable going to a salon, then you can sure try to do your chest yourself. Your back will be a different story. As I mentioned, hot wax seems to be the best. When I was doing it myself, I used Parissa brand wax, which you can find at a local Shoppers Drug Mart.

    As for tips for waxing... Trim the area beforehand if the hair is overly long. Wash & exfoliate before waxing. Just before applying the wax, wipe down the area with an alcohol swab to remove any excess oils from the skin & hair. Apply the hot wax to the desired area in the direction of hair growth. You can apply it to a fair sized area if you wish.

    Once applied, place of of the strips over the area, smoothing it down again in the direction of hair growth. Be sure to smooth it down well! Once ready, holding the skin taught, rip it off quickly, parallel to the skin in the opposite direction of growth. You don't want to pull it up and away from the skin, but rather peel it back. Do it fast! Then, place the strip down over the next area and repeat the process.

    Keep repeating this process until you have removed all the hair. Use tweezers to pluck any strays. Follow with a moisturizer, then be sure to shower again soon. Don't exfoliate again for at least 3 days to avoid irritation.

    I strongly suggest a salon, for this, really. Believe me, you won't be the only man that gets this done, and you won't get any strange looks. I live in the smallest of small towns in Atlantic Canada, and this is no big deal.

    As for GoldBond Powder, I don't think it was designed for waxing. I'd probably stay away from it, as it will likely dry your skin excessively. Itching is usually caused by excess dead skin, which leads to ingrown hairs. Exfoliating 2X weekly and using a body wash with moisturizer will help.
     
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    Hmm, difficult to say actually. I guess I'm doing this for myself, more or less. I just didn't like the idea of looking like a caveman without my shirt on. It's one of those things where people will notice the fact that you have hair (if you have lots of it), but they won't really notice if you have very little or none at all. I know I probably shouldn't care what people think, but I do. And from what I know (which could be completely wrong), it seems that the majority of girls I've met seem to be put off by large amounts of hair (which I had).

    But I also didn't like the hair myself. It was irritable, itchy sometimes and I just like the way I look without it. I'm not in terribly good shape (fitness-wise), but I'm not in tip top condition either. I plan to rid of my hair (in one way or another, permanently) then condition myself to be as physically fit as possible (i'm mostly going for the six-pack thing, which is kinda harder to see under a forest of hair).

    If I had to guess, i'd say that the majority of women don't care for men with as much hair as I had. But hey, if I find out otherwise...it can always grow back. It's just hair.

    Oh, totally understandable. Just look at one of the posts on this particular thread. A couple of women were drooling over a fellow with a very bare chested fellow. And I don't mind a little self improvement if that's the kind of image my woman wants me to have (I guess I'll find that one out as soon as I meet the right one...)

    As a matter of fact, I made a little trip to the local drugmart yesterday and made a little purchase. I also went with the Parissa brand and tried it out today.

    I've gotta say, by doing this I've gained some respect for the women that go through with this (on ANY part of their body). It wasn't the most painful thing I've ever felt, but it was definately in the top 10...

    Fact is, I was unable to do my entire chest (but this was also counting my torso and area just above my pubic region. Pretty much everything in the front below my collarbone and above my pubic hair). I couldn't finish because I was running out of will power to rip the hair out of my body. Holy crap, it was a mental battle just to keep ripping the strips off. Near the end I was starting to toughen up a little and could do it a little faster and with more confidence.

    What more can you tell me about this process (before and after). How long does it take for the hair to grow back? When it finally does, what is it like? Is it finer and less coarse? Is it easier to wax after it has been done once?

    I'm no longer a wax virgin...
    Cheers,
    SM
     
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  20. heelfetish

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    Congratulations!

    You experienced the same thing I did. Coming on the end my hands were trembling and my knees were getting weak. Couple this with the fact that some areas are difficult to do on yourself, and you now know why a salon is the better choice. Should you try again, I'm sure you'll eventually succeed. But it's so much easier and more relaxing to just lay on your back, listening to relaxation music and having warm, soft, gentle hands do the dirty work for you.

    I hope some of my suggestions were of value to you though. If you go to a salon or do it yourself is your choice to make. I can only provide help for either scenario and try to help you choose.

    As for regrowth, mine takes at least a week before I start seeing anything, and when it does it grows back finer and softer than before. It's not 'stubbly' like with shaving. And yes, the second time around is easier. Just don't let the hair grow in too long, or the roots will fully develop and you're back to square one.

    Most of the rest of my advice I've already posted. Just as with shaving the best thing you can do now is to keep clean and exfoliate regularly. Avoid tight-fitting clothes for the first few days, and try not to sweat too much for the first 24 hours.

    Congratulations again!!!
     
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