Biting too hard

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Pointman, Jan 3, 2011.

  1. Pointman

    Pointman New Member

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    Hi guys, i'm really excited to be on here, so much to learn!!

    At any rate, i just had a slight issue. When i make out with my girlfriend and we get a little heated, she tends to bite my lips (among other places) and it starts to hurt (which causes some form of adrenaline rush and it kinda adds to the cocktail of hormones and endorphines which can really get me on)

    But, it got to the point where my lips broke and started bleeding, and it turned into an ulser afterwards, which hurt like hell (especially since i wasn't on adrenaline and it wasn't fun anymore).

    I like some biting, but not so much that my lips swell and break. She knows that she bites hard, and that it's hurting me, and she's always sorry she did afterwards, but the thing is she LOVES biting. She'll bite my hand, my arm, my neck, and other places. :p

    what should i do?

    sorry for the long post :ugh
     
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    Welcome to SF, maybe you should get her one of those red balls girls bite on in some porn videos, the name of the item has escaped my mind though :ugh
     
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    i think she just likes biting me in particular... she likes to see how i squirm sometimes... So far, the only solution i can think of is to tough it out.

    Edit - oh and thanks for your reply =)
     
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    Maybe she doesn't realize it's uncomfortable, bite her back a few times and see her reaction.
     
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    Well, sometimes she doesn't realise shes biting down too hard, until she see's a bruise or broken skin. But once, i told her no more biting, and she pouted. and i don't want her to stop entirely either, just not to treat me like a tough steak.

    And i don't want to hurt her back, i nibbled once, and she was ok with it, but it left a mark and she hated that. Cause we work in the same place >.<
     
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    in the heat of the moment she may not know she's biting WAY too hard.. gently push her away or tell her "gentle" or "easy" and she'll get the hint

    I disagree with backcheck.. seriously? hurt her back? I doubt she's doing this on purpose!

    I have bit too hard on occasion and I'm certainly not offended when he tells me

    or if you want discuss it in a non-sexual environment later on "I love it when you bite me but when you bite too hard, it hurts & takes the pleasure out of it.. (say something here to compliment her)"

    trust me.. she WILL remember it
     
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    i like that! i think i'll do the complimenting +critique thing.

    Wish me luck huh? i hope i don't offend her. :)
     
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    Sorry but biting to me would result in a slap and ending the relationship if she didn't stop.
     
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    some people are quite into biting.. I would hope you say something before you slap her.. cause if it was me & you didn't & you slapped me.. I'd be the one ending the relationship ;)



    as long as you throw in enough compliments around it.. and try not to be too "harsh" about the critique, she should be fine

    if you can't talk about something this minor, IMO the relationship would never last anyways ;)
     
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    ya my x really liked to bite and biting has never bothered me but when we had sex she REALLY liked to bite.(my hole right arm was bleeding plus random spots on my neck) so we had a talk and came to a conclusion that if i am biting back she is biting to hard,and it worked pretty well for us.
     
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    Well she's out of town for awhile now, so i told her that i really missed her bite, then i said it's really nice until i get a broken lip, then she said "=( i'm sorreeeee, it was an accident!" so hopefully we're both more mindful huh? =D


    Damn man, i hope i don't get as far as to have one arm bleeding... i had a really bad neck bite which bruised, but didn't bleed (thick skin?) but it still hurt like a mother.....
     
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    I was assuming that the issue of biting had been discussed between partners previously but it happened anyway. :)