Bisexuality-For admitted Bisexuals

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  1. Silverfox

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    I've been doing some reading about bisexuals. I had a couple of experiences in college, but never followed through. Social pressure, you know. Anyway, as I've been studying several sources, it seems bisexuals get criticized. Straights don't understand them anymore than they understand gay/lesbians. Gay/lesbians seem to think you just haven't decided yet. You need to make your choice and stick with it. Some of the harshest comments came from the gay/lesbian side. I honestly can understand bisexuality. I can see or meet a man and think he looks sexy. But I also definitely like women.

    My question is how do you live your life? How do you satisfy your sexuality?
     
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    With the people I know , generaly speaking , guys stay in the closet and don't really talk about what they do with the same sex and the woman seem to be more open and admit it or say it's a one time drunkin thing when in reality it happens a lot more. These are people that I know or have known. It is amazing how much they blame on alcohol or they say some of their actions arn't gay or bi-sexual. I know , I get it , labels blahblah blah , sake of the conversation
     
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    Depending on which data you choose to believe, anywhere from 1 in 3 (data collected in the 40's) to as much as 85% (more recent surveys) of men have had at least one sexual experience with another male at some time in their life. Since only 2-3% of males identify as gay, another 2-3% as bisexual, that still leaves a large amount of men who identify as straight, who have fooled around with another guy. This usually happens in adolesence, with buddies secretly fooling around together, before girls take an active interest in them. Some guys who have, very vehemently deny any knowledge or desires of such acts, as they feel guilty because of religious beliefs and/or the social stigma that American society clings to that a guy who even thinks about it is instantly gay. It's really fucked up that society is relatively accepting of female bisexual acts, but not those of men. I find this quite ironic, as data tends to show that more males have had same sex experience(s) than women.

    Let's face it. Humans are bisexual by nature. It's organised religions that have created a false sense that it is socially and morally wrong. Prior to Christ and Muhammad, bisexuality was not only normal, but often encouraged in many societies. Even in India, where male/male sex is extremely taboo, it is considered a normal part of growing up for adolescent boys and everyone "looks the other way". America really needs to get out of the dark ages. I have been fortunate to have been able to spend time in various places across the Atlantic. While I haven't been to every country, it seems to me that despite the social advances and reforms of the last 50 years, America is still probably the most closed minded and bigoted country in the "Western World".

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    I heard that bs before too. We're here...we like both...who are they to think they can judge? I mean...really? But we're supposed to accept everyone else. Riiigghhhttt.
     
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    OK, I found a thread from 2011 that asks the question, "If you looked at a member of your same sex, and found them sexy, would you admit it to yourself." The intention was not that you'd go hit on them, but would you admit it to yourself.
     
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    First of all I am bisexual, or have been and may be again.

    But I do not agree with the above that bisexuality is 'natural' and when I say 'natural' I really mean that it is practiced by the majority. Sure there have been socities in the past that have encourage bisexuality but it was not simply as a recreation! It was for political reasons, just as political in fact as Christian and Muslim opposition today to bisexuality and homosexuality - these reason were to prevent pregnancy and control young women, keep birth rates low, ensure populations did not grow beyond available food sources, and also to form close bonds between young men who would become the political body of the state, either at the court of kings and princes or within direct democracies (Athens for example). These societies were not 'natural' but designed and adapted to fit certain cultural, political and economic conditions.

    I think the numbers of bisexual people really are small. I don't mean to offend anyone here but in my experience lesbian women were often 'crazy' to me, they were often intolerent themselves of bisexual people, many hated men or were very butch themselves, something I was not looking for when finding a female partner. I prefered to be with other bisexual girls but they were very hard to find on the gay scene or anywhere. In fact I have only had three female lovers, excluding those experienced in threesomes.

    How do you live your life? I think you just live it and don't give a damn what any one else thinks. The inner person that is you can only be experienced by you, no one else will ever know it therefore only you can know what is good for that inner person.
     
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    I don't know what I am. I've had bisexual experiences, but I don't find men attractive at all and would never kiss or date them. With dudes it's usually just been about sex. Or it's been a woman "forcing" me to do it.
     
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    It's difficult to find openly bisexual people, because they aren't accepted widely by straights or gays. They say that either they "an't make up their mind" or "are gay and won't admit it". Therefore, most people who have experimented with bi sex identify as "straight", even if bi activities still interest them.

    Even if you consider the low end of data collected on this matter, at least 1/3 of people have had at least one same sex experience to the point of orgasm. In modern society, this usually takes place during puberty. Best friends, cousins and siblings keep a lot of secrets at this time in life and this is often one of them.

    The low end of one in three is derived from quite old data. I think the actual number is much higher today. That would be because kids are far more aware of sex by puberty than they were then and that females are much more comfortable and open with bisexuality now, thus adding more female experimenters in the present age. Traditionally, this happened more between boys. The reason for this is simple... Boys, having "external plumbing". They are more likely to discover physical pleasure before interest in the opposite sex naturally occurs. Between they want to share this knowledge with their best friend and that boys are curious how their tool compares, this often leads to mutual mastrubation and/or oral. This usually ends when females become sexually interested in them. They move on and usually go through life as if none of that had ever happened.

    There are more people active in bisexuality these days as well. It has become more acceptable and even trendy for young adult females to be openly bi. Also, with women being more open sexually these days, many admit that guys playing with each other's cocks is just a big of turn on for them, as watching two females together is for a lot of men. All one needs to do is follow the personal ads. The majority of couples looking for a threesome are usually looking for the third to be bi, regardless of which gender they seek. Is often mentioned in couple for couple ads that they "are willing to try new things". Well, if they have already covered the hetero interests in the rest of the ad, it's pretty obvious what that means.

    Bi sex has also become increasingly popular with mature men. They find themselves on their own after the end of a marriage or two. They find that women of that age only tend to be interested men who are willing to persue an LTR and/or marriage. By this time, a guy just wants a best friend with benefits and see where that goes. If they are still technically married (life does not always make getting a divorce simple), Their chances are slim to none. Most women won't touch that guy, even if they are "married but looking". This can lead a guy to end up thinking about when he experimented or what it would have been like if he had. This in turn often leads to them seeking out a guy that's in the same place, and the internet makes that easier these days, so more do it than you might think.

    This all ads up to the fact that there's a lot more bi activity going on than ever meets the eye. A lot more goes on behind closed doors. Bi people aren't gay. Most bi people aren't interested in having a romantic relationship with the same sex, or doing certain things that gay people do. For most bi's, their interest is purely sexual. A lot happens that no one ever sees or knows, other than the parties involved.

    Finally, don't believe what you see in Bi MMF porn. Most of this is two gay guys and a token woman. They are getting paid to put on a show. Most Bi men I have known are not into kissing or having anal sex with guys.

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    Id classify myself as bi. Most people who know me dont know and those that do know are either really intrested or dont want to know at all. As for 'every day' well depending what I want depends where I go for casual incounters! But when it comes to men I dont enjoy kissing/cuddling, its all about the sex.
     
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    Is being straight/bi/gay about sex or emotion?

    To me you are with who you want to mate with for life, who you love, who you want to love.

    If you're a guy, love women but like sex with men - no kissing, no cuddling, no relationship outside of the bedroom, you're straight.
     
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    Hello! I'd like to say that this post made me join the forums. I'm bi and this is a really interesting topic for me.

    To clarify, cause not all bi people are the same, I can be (and have been) emotionally and physically attracted to both males and females. No, it's not all males and females, the same way straight guys don't like -all- girls. I have a type I like, that can bend a bit because intelligence really turns me on, so the physical features might come in second.

    Having said that, I think I'm a really sexual guy, so I keep finding cute/hot people everywhere I go. For instance, yesterday I was printing some pictures and I couldn't decide if the checkout girl was hotter than the guy waiting in line in front of me. I think that's the kind of life some bisexuals might have.

    Note that I'm speaking from my own experience, other bisexuals might be less "sexual". When I am in a relationship, I make it a point that my partner understands that I will always be bi (it's not like you turn straight if you date a girl, you know?). I am willing to be in a monogamous relationship, but to be honest, I'm quite kinky, so in the end I end up dating and liking people who are at least willing to try different stuff in bed and maybe even be in an open relationship or bring someone else into the bedroom.

    It's not easy sometimes because like silverfox said, straight people don't get it and gay people bash us a lot, (so dating life is FREAKING DIFFICULT), but I can't deny what my body and heart keep telling me practically every day. I'm not sure if I gave you the answer you were looking for, but you can ask more questions :)
     
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    And just to add something else. I love cuddling/kissing/holding hands/-enter corny line here- with both girls and guys and in (my opinion), you're still bisexual even if you only like to fuck one gender and be emotionally involved with the other. You're still engaged in some way with both genders. Some men are "women-haters" and they only like to over power them through sex to compensate from some previous trauma, and you still consider them heterosexual. So I don't see a reason not to call yourself bisexual even if you don't like to kiss people from your same gender, (but still fuck them, give them oral sex, etc) The label is heavy and has a lot of baggage, I agree, but there's nothing wrong with it!
     
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    I haven't looked at this thread in a while. Really, not until today, when Luke cited it as a reason for joining the forums. Here are some of my thoughts.

    This is the attitude I was hoping to hear. I wish there were more who spoke out. Thank you.

    Luke, I like your attitude. What you describe is what I would imagine being Bisexual to be like. Thank you. Excellent first posts.
     
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    Thanks :D I just felt like I needed to speak up for the closeted and absent bi guys (and girls), (and the ones who know it but refuse to admit it), even though this is just my opinion on a very personal subject.

    I too wish there were more people willing to speak up. According to the latest stats, about 50% of the gay and lesbian population really identifies as bisexual, but like I said, I totally understand staying in the closet, because of all the prejudice one gets from both communities. I still chose to be true and try to educate people on the subject :) Thank you for creating this thread, it's good to have a space to discuss these subjects.
     
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    Stay being true to yourself, and educating people. It's the only way to move forward.
     
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    Stay being true to yourself, and educating people. It's the only way to move forward.
     
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    I think I just like sex. If there was a quatrosexual, I'd probably be one. As long as it didn't mean having four dicks or something. Have a hard enough time dealing with the one I got.
     
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    sex is just somthing we do it doesnt define us as a person and love is love doesnt matter to me your lifestyle wat matters to me is the way you treat people with respect thats somthing that has been lost to this world now if u want sex with the same sex then go for it its just sex doesnt make you who you are underneath . but as my sexuallity im married and extremly happy
     
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