Bi Sexual / Curious Husband I met my husband, aged 38 a little over two years ago, incidently we met on the internet. We were both in other, bad relationships. Our attraction was instant and we both believed we had met our soulmate. Within a matter of weeks of chatting online and on the telephone, and before we had even met, we both finished our respective relationships. He lived 450 miles away from me at the other end of the country and we agreed that he would book a hotel and travel here to meet me. He came for four days and I fell in love instantly. We had a fantastic time and the best sex that either of us had ever experienced. We agreed that we had to be together and as he has two children from his previous marriage, I gave up my whole life, job etc and moved to be with him. We got a flat together and he proposed two months later. I had never been happier. We married in October 2005 and it really was the happeist day of my life. He had been seperated from his wife of 14 years when we met and was dating another girl. His wife had left him stating that she no longer loved him. There is evidence to suggest she was having an affair and she has since the married the man in question. His children are aged 9 and 11, boy and girl and he is a fantastic father. He had not loved his wife for many years but as a loyal and committed person, vowed to stay with her for the sake of the children. After their seperation, he indulged in a lot of sexual affairs with women. As I had also been a very sexual person, this did not matter to me and we spent many days and nights in bed acting out many fantasies and indulging in things we had never been able to do with anyone else. He had told me that he had a sexual encounter with a another male in his early teens and while he didn't regret it, did feel somewhat embarassed about it. He only participated in heavy petting and oral sex. I am sexually liberated and I too have had a few encounters with women. This didn't repulse or particularly bother me. Last night my husband confessed to me that for years he had wondered whether he may be gay / bi sexual and had never ever been able to tell anyone. He has had a few opportunities to go with openly gay men over the years but always bottled out. He did however admit that the thought of seeing two men together turns him on. He is now stating that he knows he is not gay as he enjoys being with women/me too much. He has reassured me that I am the only person he wants and that nobody has ever made him feel like I do in bed. I know that I turn him on but now have to face the fact that he may be bi-sexual or even gay which he staunchly denies. He has told me that he is our marriage for the long haul and would never ever leave me for anyone else, male or female. I am now at a crossroads as while the fact that he is attracted to men doesn't particularly bother me, I am concerned about the implications on our marriage and worry about what happens if his feelings develop and he can no longer fight the urge to be with a man. He has admitted to looking at bi-sexual websites and pornography (which I knew he possessed). I am completely torn in two. Do I believe him and carry on, hoping things wont change? He says his feelings have never changed over the last 20 years so why would they now? I know he is loyal and that is one of the reasons I married him. Looking for some advice and hopefully see how other women cope in this situation. He wants me to trust him and has offered to stop using the internet and looking at bi sexual pornography. I am worried if I force him to do this, he will eventually feel supressed and have an affair?