Best way to attract a lady?

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  1. Lovingblowjobs

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    So I was wondering whats the best way to attract a lady.
    Getting her to want me
     
  2. Dreama

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    You can't really get any specific person to want you...They have to want you of their own accord. But, you might dress or act in a way that a person could be inclined to respond well to...Being confident in who you are is a great way to attract interested ladies, but seeming too self-absorbed is a turn off to a lot of women, so you should try to find a good balance between confidence and cockiness. And be yourself. Any woman who isn't attracted to you for who you actually are isn't going to be with you for long. Hope this helps!
     
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    I once had a friend who used to put magnets in his underwear so he could attract ladies who wore braces on their teeth......does that count?:eyes
     
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    Magic potion :D
     
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    make sure to be clean..and smell nice.
     
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    Sit next to HotWheels and his buddy.:lol
     
  7. BassDude

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    Be a man.
     
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    there is no specific answer to this question
     
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    If you'll search some of the prior threads on similar topics, you'll find one titled something like "what women want" or something like that. In it, most of the ladies who regularly frequent SF (the horny sexual freaks we know and love!) said that the most attractive things about a man are a big heart and a sense of humor, followed closely by nice face and sexual prowess...body was on the list but low...penis size and shape were dead last.

    HTH,
    BD
     
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    Don't act like a complete ass. Stay away from being cocky, sometimes the line between that and confident is quite hard to see. Care about your hygiene, that is a big one.
     
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    random bits of sparkly shiny things have worked surprisingly well for me :)

    be a geniunely relaxed, confident person, genuinely interested in her (body, personality, the whole shebang) and understand her. Use strong eye contact at every oppotunity, use touch wisely (don't be creepy, but it lets her know you like her, if she responds well it lets you know she likes you and makes you both feel closer), take the risk that you might screw up, but learn from it when you do.

    be smart eough to ask that kind of question and read every answer you can lay your hands on until it clicks.
     
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    Clever is the man who knows
    That fondness in a gal's heart grows
    When he remembers little things
    Like little cars and little rings.
     
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  14. mace85

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    Find a list of pick up lines on the internet. That should work.




















    NO DON'T...

    Remember above all, life is not a porno, just relax and things may happen.
     
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    You know what sucks? Taking your time to write a whole list off the top of your head, then accidentally hitting the back button, hitting forward again and having that whole list disappear.

    Let me sum up because I'm not typing it again:

    Be relaxed, confident and comfortable with yourself.

    Be able to be the center of attention without being a ham. Learn to be able to talk to random people on a whim (like starting a short conversation with the girl at the Subway counter or something for example).

    Develop a quick, uh, whats the word I'm looking for...wit, thats it, and learn to be funny. If you're not, start watching a whole lot of comedy central as though it were your college major.

    Be interested in the girl. Ask her questions and don't blab about yourself.

    Recognize when its time to move on. Don't be that puppy dog begging for scraps following around a girl who doesn't want you, because other girls will notice that.

    Don't be afraid to show your sexual interest in a girl, or the fact that your'e obviously attracted to her. They know what we're after, particularly at a club or a party, and they don't expect us to play tidily winks, nor are they looking to play it themselves.
     
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    Yeah, and to follow up on what Mace85 said, DO NOT USE PICKUP LINES!!!!!!!!

    The only time you should use one is if you want to try the, obviously this is a stupid pick up line, and I know I'm making a fool out of myself but I'm going to laugh at myself and let you laugh at me too because I really want to talk to you approach. And if you try that approach, make it obvious and overly cheesy when you used the line so there is no question that she doesn't think you're trying to be serious.
     
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    I'm thinking about the second half of your question. So, are you trying to meet new women, or are you trying to get women you already know to want you?

    If you are trying to get women you already know to want you...well, nature has to take it's spot first. They have to already feel sexual attraction toward you. If they don't feel any attraction to you in a sexual way, then I doubt you'd ever be able to create that. (Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't think so...ladies?).

    If they do feel some sexual attraction to you, then capitalize on it. Talk about sex with them (not necessarily sex with them, but in general.) If you have any erotic stories that a woman is likely to think is hot, share them. If you have any good jokes that give the message "I love to give cunninlingus" them tell them the jokes. Make all sorts of little sexual innuendo's that are funny (see the thread on innuendo's and flirting). If you're in a little heat of passion with someone, start talking dirty to her...tell her what you want to do to her in very graphic terms. Write an erotic story and send it to her. If you use a chat program, tell her a dirty story over chat, or talk dirty to her in a joking and funny way. Drop any and all inhibitions you may have, and be willing to do anything that might turn her on. Figure out what your own sexual fantasies are and tell her about them...ask her to tell you some of hers. Think of imaginative things you could do to her that would be erotic and make jokes about them (read some erotic stories in Penthouse Forum mag or similar, if you need to. Give the stories a romance element as well, if you possibly can...that's actually easy for me because I like a little romance...I realize it might not be easy for all guys though, so you might have to put some practice and effort into it).

    In a nutshell, if she already feels some sexual attraction to you, get her thinking long and hard about having sex with you. Project the vibe to her that you are so sexy that she gets wet when you walk in the room. Next thing you know, she'll be screwing your brains out uncontrollably.

    BD
     
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    Ladies...in general is that true? I really don't think so, but maybe I'm wrong. Does a dude whom you'd otherwise think is gross become sexy when you discover he's wealthy?

    BD
     
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    We...

    ...do give points for ingenuity.

    :lol