It has been a very long time since my last visit / post here. I'm sure there are many new members and voices here now. I'm reaching out for advice, because I'm becoming very frustrated with my sexual relationship with my wife and I would love some thoughts or feedback. We have been married for 6 years and just welcomed our 2nd (and final child) into the world 4 weeks ago. Like most couples, we had very intense lust and sex in our early days. Nothing exactly adventurous, but it was frequent and excellent in the early days. Having children has obviously changed this, especially with the stressful challenges of infertility that we eventually overcame. With a new baby here, I'm honestly not expecting much. But there are more important things on the table that we probably need to address. We have completely different expectations of sex. We usually have excellent communication for our needs outside the bedroom, but between the sheets we seem to be on completely different pages. Me: I could have sex everyday. Usually masturbate every day. I've introduced 100% of the sex toys into the bedroom (wand, fleshlight, massage candle, vibrator, cock rings,etc). I always have to initiate sex, enjoy giving her oral and like multiple positions. My untapped kinks/fetishes that she isn't into: anal for her, butt play for me, MFF threesome (never been discussed) Her: Sex once every two weeks is more her speed. She masturbates several times a week (with wand) and have mutual masturbation maybe twice a month. She used to love to give me head - now she's lost her skills and treats it like a bad chore. Never initiates sex and always wants one position with little to no buildup or foreplay. This is a lot to digest. But how can talk to her about the blowjob? She's lost her game. How do I do this without completely insulting her? How do I remain sensitive and patient, yet fulfill my own needs here. I understand most of this boils down to communication, but I'm needing some direct advice here. Thanks everyone.