Becoming frustrated with my partner

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by ChrisH, Dec 15, 2010.

  1. ChrisH

    ChrisH New Member

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    Hello, I have been in a committed homosexual relationship with my partner for going on 4 years now. I love him to death BUT while having sex, it is always the same positions (which feel great but I want something new). This is coupled with the fact that he will not let me top- ever- despite me making it very clear that I would like to on occasion. He claims that he is too sensitive to do that and won't even try. When I try to get him to let me try, he becomes very upset which of course ruins the intimacy for both of us.

    I just feel like I am the only one trying to keep our sex life going. Is there anyway that I could approach this differently to maybe get some different responses from him?
     
  2. blondi

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    some ppl are afraid of change, or not being in control, or, well, a multitude of things. sometimes its just not gonna happen, and you have to be prepared for that. however, i have found that sometimes show and tell works. show him some pictures or maybe a video of what you want to do, but make sure theyre mild mannered...you dont want to freak him out. sometimes, seeing that its not horrible can be encouraging. or casually bring the topic up in a group with him there. ask your friends what thier experiences have been. its also possible he has had a bad experience in the past, have you asked? (im sure you have but just checking) so...be gentle and slow, other than that *shrug* wait and see
     
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    I agree with blondi many ppl are afraid of change especially in their sexual encounters. Myself and mr bunny have changed a few things and I was afraid but it was a good change but not pusing it and allowing the other person to take there time is good.

    Maybe you just need a good chat with him and not best just before you have sex :)