So what are the disadvanges? Sometimes my wife and I are in the middle of disagreements that last a week or two. I need to be productive to keep my side of the household responsibilities going. I need a clear mind. I do feel guilty about laying out the baby oil and porn, and whacking off alone. Intellectually, I know I need to take care of myself, when things are on the Fritz with the wife. Still I have this lingering guilt. I wrote a thread starter earlier today, but it seems to have gotten lost somehow. I must have pushed the wrong button somehow. After this long? Ideas?