I have other threads to provide a little bit of context as to what my issue is. For the TL;DR crowd, late-blooming from me equals me being in the physical prime of my life now, compared against my girlfriend who has allowed Life Choices 2 put her in a somewhat sorry physical state. I have this ongoing issue where depending on certain decisions that she will make about her medication or other actions she will take her libido ends up going down and I end up getting cut off. I always try to take precautions beforehand to prevent such times but ultimately she's going to do what she wants to do. Now she's finally demonstrated some initiative and got her medication and health straight for the time being and is feeilng a bit randy. Now to a periodically sexually deprived individual, i know conventional wisdom dictates i get some while the getting is good. But i can't shake the pangs of resentment stemming from the fact that her unwillingness to heed my advice or at least to humor my suggestions are the primary reason we end up in said dry spells in the 1st place. I'm not advocating using sex to reward/punish behaviors, but shouldn't my desire to have sex in some way be tied to my feelings on how her decisions are affecting both of us? I feel like I'm either going to turn her down and explain my issue, further lengthing the dry spell, or succumb to my urges and have her do the exact same thing in a few months... Any advice?