As may have been read already here, I have had a lot of dissatisfaction in my love life within my monogamous relationship - marriage. What bothers me is that my wife never dresses to be "sexy". She likes clothes quite a bit and has some nice dresses, but they are all long below the knee. Although I like breasts, I am a leg man. If I suggest some sexy wear, she immediately says something like - "well, that sounds like wearing that outfit that would be more for you" to me. Well it is!! Why doesn't my wife wear sexy clothes, at least around the house? Sometimes when bringing up the sex/sexy topics I feel like I am talking to a wall - sometimes a wall that tells me that my ideas aren't important. She does have some sexy bedtime wear, but I don't want to wait till we "decided" to have sex too see that on her. If I saw her wear sexy clothes(such as shorter skirts), then maybe I would have the enthusiasm to work our way to the bedroom. She is obese and isn't proud of her appearance, but I am married to her - and why can't I see more of her? I feel shortchanged in a way, like she doesn't care. She is considered a very nice person, and very giving which she is. But when it comes to sex that part of her personality is missing. Sometimes we go months without sex - other times maybe a couple times a month. The whole sex thing within our marriage, has just been such a struggle/depressing aspect of our relationship. By the way, she doesn't ask me to wear anything in particular - but says I look nice/hot sometimes. She doesn't go much beyond that other that tapping my leg or butt after saying such comments. Thanks for any feedback! :shrug By the way, I have looked up some night wear websites and told her what I liked - she balks(a little open to it) at that too. Maybe I should look up some skirt sites to find what interests me. I don't like getting to the point where I feel I am giving up on the whole thing. That is more depressing than I like to be.