Asking a girl for anal?

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  1. Chronichaze

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    I don't know how foreign this topic is to women or am I aware of how comfortable women are with anal sex in general. I was always meaning to do it to my last girlfriend but she was the really prissy/stuck up type so I was always timid about asking her about it because I didn't want to sound like an absolute pervert ya know.. One time we were super smashed while on vacation and somehow I got a couple fingers deep in her ass??.. she seemed to be in love with it because I know for a fact she wasn't telling me to stop. Still I never got the courage to ask her for anal sex as she was a prude in her own way. Now I'm not with a gf but I do have a few girls I frequent with sexually who are my good friends.

    How should I ask for it? Should I get them a little liquored up so they can calm the nerves, just slip it in, start with vaginal first? what procedural process or precautions should be taken:lol I know it could end badly if they aren't forewarned and I just shove it in:eyes
     
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    The only way to know if a girls into it is ask them if they are. Just getting them drunk and starting is not only an asshole move but a good way to get yourself knocked on your ass.
     
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    Uh,I would advise against "just slipping it in"...

    Anal sex is not like they show it in porn.It should really be worked up to.First,it helps if the girl is extremely turned on.You are also going to want a good lube,because it does not self lubricate and can be PAINFUL without it.
    Last,start with some fingers.Wait until she is used to that,then SLOWLY insert your head and leave it like that for a moment or two so she can get used to that.
    THEN,you can start moving and it should be fine.

    But going along with what Mittimer said,you had definitely better have permission first!
    Just come out and ask...say you have always wondered what it was like and if they would want to try it with you.
    Worse they can say is no,right?
     
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    Whoa there that's a tall order to ask these girls I been friends with since high school if they want to step to that level. Despite knowing some them for so long that's a lot of ice to break to get to asking about anal:lol

    Seems as though it's not a very easy topic to approach.
     
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    Well,it really isn't.It's best to do stuff like that with a long term partner,I'm just saying
     
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    Damn I was really hoping to tread that foreign territory.. I want to lose my anal virginity(not the kind where I'm the recipient:lol) I'm still young though. How were you girls approached with it. Did you just have your partners straight up ask? Doesn't seem like most girls are comfortable with that part of their body. Too many self conscious girls..
     
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    It's not so much about being self conscious,(at least for me it wasn't)as much as it is about being scared it will hurt.It definitely CAN.So be gentle.

    If I were you,I'd approach the subject right after regular sex.When you're laying there catching your breath and stuff.Ask them if they have any fantasies or things they want to try.You never know,they could say they are curious about it.

    I hate to sound like an old fart,but if you can't talk about it,you probably shouldn't be doing it.
     
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    Nothing like an older women spittin some knowledge to the kids... Not like I can call up moms and ask her the 411 on anal. So your input is appreciated. Thank you!
     
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    First, how old are you?

    Furthermore, if you aren't comfortable talking to whomever you plan on having anal sex with ABOUT having the anal sex, you shouldn't be trying to do it in the first place.

    Sex requires open and honest communication. You can't just avoid the topic, try it out and if it doesn't work, move on.

    Flat out ask them if they've had it or if their interested in it.
     
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    21 missy.
     
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    No problem,you will learn a lot on this forum,lol...:)
     
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    If you can't just man up and talk to them about it, then you yourself aren't ready to be doing it. That's my take.
     
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    Amen brotha!!
     
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    New postee here.....just a thought, have you ever asked a girlfriend to play with you anally, or even just take her hand and place her finger in the right place. Sometimes we men forget that an anus is an anus and we both have them - a way of getting the conversation started.....
     
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    Yes, when it comes to anal, a rule is always good to keep in mine to give you perspective before you do it "would i let her do the same to me?" if the answer is 'are you fucking crazy!" don't do it to her!
     
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    100% agree^^^ But when and if you decide to have this conversation. Do not, I repeat do not say "Hey, have you ever wanted to be fucked in the ass?". That probably wouldn't go over so well. Word it right and you might get the response you're looking for. And like some of the people said earlier don't just slam, slip, shove, or put it in.
     
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    Yeah, there seems to be a general consensus to have a "talk" if I wish to have it work out smoothly. Maybe I'll just leave it alone for now and keep it to regular sex and play. I'll fulfill this fantasy another day:p



    :lol Sorry mane but this had me laughing pretty hard. I would never wish for a girl to play with my ass. For some reason the double standard can be held here, that'd be weird with a girl having her fingers in my ass. Besides don't women feel more pleasure from anal than men?
     
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    Take her "vaginally" from behind making sure she's really into it.. after a bit of that compliment her ass telling her "You're ass is so fuckin sexy" flop your cock around her Ahole but not inserting it... put it back in her vagina... lick your fingers and massage the area... "mmm can I feel inside your ass?" ... *finger around* "oh baby my cock wants to feel the inside of your ass"... "You want it?"

    If she says "no baby".. then say "Damn it's so fricken hot! but no worries I'm good with this.. want me to fuck you a bit harder baby??" "yeah?"

    *sorry got caught up lol
     
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    My husband absolutely loves anal play and anal. We have a strap-on just for that purpose. I would never let him go anywhere near my butt if he didn't even let me try to touch him there as well.

    That being said the butt is an erogenous zone for both sexes. Men and women can feel pleasure from butt play.

    If you want to have anal sex you will have to ask her about how she feels about it. If you don't want you butt played with that's fine. You should however be mindful of anal being painful if not done correctly. You also have to think about her feelings. If she is uneasy about anal you can warm her up to the idea if she is up for that. Rub your fingers around her anus, lick her there (after a shower), etc.
     
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    Ahaha! you guys are absolute freaks.. Love it