as the name implys, i wonder

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  1. Iwonder

    Iwonder New Member

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    21 year old male

    Hmm, not really sure what my own question is...like a lot of people before me im sure i kinda just want to spit it out and hear what people have to say...

    Im engaged to a beautiful woman and very much in love. but ive always been what i consider bi-curious. I find women very much attractive, but i like cock. i had a friend when i was younger and we used to experiment ya know. Now with my fiance i love for her to finger me, and we both enjoy when she grinds me and pretends that shes fucking me. we tried a strapon but it was kinda a cheap one and didnt work too well.

    I guess the only question thats here really, is, how common is it for guys to be like me? I mean, when i see men i never think of them as atractive (and no this isnt denial or being afraid to admit it). hmm..how to explain it, well men dont turn me on as in i dont find men to be good looking face or body wise....but im often turned on by dick. when i watch porno sometimes the women get me going and sometimes the dicks do, depending on how i feel at the moment. I felt this way for years but always kinda kicked myself saying "you're not gay stop it!" ya know. finally i realized im not gay, i just enjoy sex in almost every way. i fantasize about giving blowjobs and being screwed by men semi-commonly. but i ramble on. anyone give me an idea of how common this is? i kinda want to know because if it seems to be more common than im imagining it might make it easier for me to approach someone for a three-some.

    My fiance and i have talked about it many times, neither of us would ever let the other participate with a memeber of the opposite sex, and i dont see that as a problem. we do both want to have three somes where a woman and i would play with her and vice versa though. but its kinda hard to accomplish something like that where i live. gay/bi is kinda kept on the REAL downlow here ya know, deep down south in a small town, im sure ya know what i mean.

    so, in summary. anyone who can say how common my feelings are, and/or maybe suggest some places or techniques to approach people would be appreciated, thanks.
     
  2. Eros

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    I think the problem is that we want to box everyone into categories. When in reality sexulality seems so unique to the individual. I am married, have had fantasies about some aspects of gay sex but never really even considered a gay lifestyle. The more I question and talk to people, the more I find that there are not many 'freaks' and absolutely no one that is 'normal'. So from one not so normal guy to another, good luck!
     
  3. kbate

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    As learned on the internet, your semi-bisexual feelings are not uncommon. Many many men have some bisexual tendencies.

    Fewer will ever act on their fantasy, principally because they are just that, sexual fantasies. If you do choose to act on it, starting with your fiance/wife and a quality strapon ($50-150) is a good place to start.

    I cannot help with places to pick up a guy or to find someonne, I do not know your area, situation or circumstance.
     
  4. HeIsMe

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    You're definitely not alone in the way you feel about cock, Iwonder. I'm a lot like you I guess...I don't find a vast majority of men sexually attractive at all (though I do happen across a male hottie once in a while), I'd never want a romantic relationship with another man, and I very, very rarely fantasize about anal sex with another guy (maybe the only way in which we differ a bit), but, for some reason, I totally love giving a cute guy head, though I've only had that privilege a precious few times during my life (I just made a post about this the other day...check it out).

    Why would a straight guy like me enjoy giving another guy head so much? Trust me, I've been asking myself that question for years. Interestingly, also like you, Iwonder, I experimented with another boy when I was younger, too. Maybe that has something to do with it? Maybe both you and I were meant to be straight, but, in our yearning to try anything sexual as young boys, we experimented with other boys and found out that another male is capable of giving just as much pleasure (in certain ways at least) as a female...and, in my case, I also found out how awesome it is to give oral pleasure to another male, which caused me further confusion about my "gay" tendencies. I mean, even I can understand why a straight guy would enjoy getting a blowjob from anyone (because, as long as it's done right, it feels good no matter who does it), but why would a straight guy like me love giving another guy head so much?

    About that (me loving to give guys head, that is)...all I can figure is that I love giving sexual pleasure, period, and it's such a "definite" thing when giving it to a male. Though I enjoy giving females sexual pleasure, it's almost like I never really know for sure if I've pleasured her. Where guys are concerned, I know what it feels like to get a blowjob (being a guy myself and all), so I can be 100% certain of what it feels like to other males...in other words, I know for sure how fantastic what I'm doing feels to who I'm doing it to Also, in my experience (sucking off a guy who considered himself totally straight), just the fact that my "partner" went against his morals and let me give him head showed me how much he wanted it, and that turned me on big time. Finally, the male orgasm also seems like more of a "definite" thing to me than does the female orgasm (I'm sure you've heard of women "faking it", right?). I mean, when I've just sucked like crazy on a guy's dick and it suddenly begins to flex uncontrollably in my mouth and the guy's load gushes down my throat, I know I've just made him feel good...there's just no faking something like that.

    Just a warning, Iwonder...if you're anything like me, you won't "turn gay" or anything like that if you give another guy head, but you'll love it much, much more than you think you will, and you'll find yourself fantasizing about it all the time and wishing you could do it again. I swear, if I knew a good-looking guy who'd let me give him head whenever I wanted to, I'd probably spend several hours every day down between his legs, kissing, licking, and sucking his dick and balls...basically just giving him the most unimaginably hot oral sex that anyone could possibly give him. Whew...I better stop right there... ;)

    Hard to believe I'm straight, isn't it? :)
     
  5. Iwonder

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    HeIsMe just summed it up for me right there, everything he said he feels is the same with me, whew, nice to know im not the only one. now finding that guy is the hard part :/
     
  6. LEVI

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    Gay

    If You Want To Give A Guy Head' You Are Gay.
     
  7. Logger

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    Dear Levi,

    I suggest that there may be various degrees of bisexuality. If you look at some of the Swinger Boards, you will find that there is a wide variety of tastes, that men have for male contact, while still maintaining a marriage.

    In general, being Gay usually means exclusively desiring same sex contact.

    Since I Wonder desires to maintain his GF, I would say that disqualifies him as Gay, and limits him to being Bisexual, if in fact he starts making it a habit to fulfill his fantasies of giving blow jobs.

    Search terms of Bisexual and Gay, and homosexuality, homosexual, coming out will give some other threads whre these issues have been discussed.

    I read recently where Mark Felt, FBI Asst. Director, covered up Ehrlichman and Halderman, top Nixon Aides, engaging in homosexual activities, before the Watergate. Those guys, and some other Nixon aides, were apparently bisexual, to some extent.

    I think that the trust of individuals needs to be evaluated on their being considerate, fair, compassionate, and professionally trustworthy, rather than based upon some Freudian standard of sexuality.

    Blessings
     
  8. columbus17

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    No shit? Wow! I also read that Mark Felt claimed to be deep throat--and here I was thinking it was Linda Lovelace.
     
  9. HeIsMe

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    I know how you feel about being "the only one", too, Iwonder. For a while there (especially right after I accessed the internet for the first time), I was beginning to think that the only guys out there with "gay" tendencies besides me were guys who wanted it all...hugging, kissing, oral, anal, romantic relationship, growing old together, etc., most of which I'm totally not interested in (well, I did lie just a tad in my previous post...besides oral sex, I have fantasized about kissing a cute guy, too, though I've never done it). Anyway, it was a while before I found out that there are other guys out there who simply crave some occasional, male/male oral sex.

    If you were hot and lived nearby, Iwonder (both could be true for all I know), you and I could have a lot of fun! ;)

    Whatever, LEVI...seriously. When I'm laying there with a cute guy's cock pumping my mouth like a piston and I know that I'm about to make him erupt with pleasure (if you know what I mean ;) ), I couldn't care less what anyone calls me.