As opposed to, bendy?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by refresh, Mar 17, 2003.

  1. refresh

    refresh Contributer

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    I mean, what really defines straightness?

    If you have sex with a girl that has had sex with another guy before, you're basically having sex with that guy by having sex with her. Does that make you gay? :eek
     
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    nope it makes you seconds, thirds, fourths, fiths etc :p :)
     
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    no, it makes you gay when you have sex with a boy directly :D
     
  4. refresh

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    Enter Trojan Man :D
     
  5. Chanserv

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    If you're gay you know it. You have a certian attraction to the same sex rather than the opposite. It doesn't matter if you have sex with a man just to experiment with it and then revert to liking women, that means your straight and experimented with the other spectrum of sexual pleasure.
     
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    Good description chanserv, definitely. I haven't seen you around in quite some time... hope you come back.. I enjoyed talking with you.
     
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    no, it makes you gay if you are a boy and you have sex with a boy directly
     
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    Yes exactly.. that is why I am gay... I am a boy who has had sex with another boy.
     
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    to be gay, lesbian, bi, doesn't mean you have to have sex with the same sex. it's the sexual affection to the same sex.
     
  10. Giancarlo

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    Well that is another way to put it. I can't help it.. ;) I like guys.. ;)
     
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    Actually, I think it would have to be more than just a sexual thing to consider yourself gay no? I would think that you would have to have the ability to fall in love with someone of the same sex to be truely gay. Otherwise, isn't it just acting out a sexual fantasy?
     
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    Yeah exactly and that is where I am gay... I was in love (and still am) with somebody of the same sex... and we had sex enough. ;) But firstly, it was the emotional connection between us.
     
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    A person could live a hetrosexual lifestyle and be a homosexual. That person could have never had sex with a same sex-person and only had sex with oppisit sex person and still be a honosexual. It is your sexual preference that determines your 'lable' not whom you have sex with...
     
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    Shaman, that isn't true. If you don't have an attraction towards the opposite sex and you have a sexual life with that person, you are living a lie.
     
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    Of course they are living a lie, but that does not negate the statement.. It has only recently that toleration of homosexuality within our society has reached the stage that it become an 'accepted' lifestyle. I have had friends whom spent most of teenage/adult years presenting themselves to society as hetrosexual, an being quite misable I might add, to keep their job and status, family and friends.
     
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    Well at this day and age, gay people can have good careers, friends and family.
     
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    I agree, I have some gay friends and they live their lives proudly of themselves, facing society just the way they are.
     
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    Back to the orignial statement, what you were implying was that the sexual act 'made' a person gay. What I am saying is that sex with a same sex partner does not make a person gay.

    All sex is, is a physical expression of one's attraction to another human being.

    If you were placed on island where there was only women, and were a virgin, if you had sex with a woman would that make you hetrosexual? No, I think not, your attraction (preference) would be towards a same sex partner.

    There are men locked up in prsions (etc.) where the only sexual expression that can be had is with same-sex. If what you were saying was true, once released they would continue with same-sex relationships. But that is not the case, once released they return to their sexual preference. They may have had a homosexual experience in their lives but they are hetrosexuals.
     
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    I don't know... but I have only attraction to guys... I guess that makes me gay.
     
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