Something I thought others here might find interesting: 10 habits of highly sexual people Bunnie and I read this and thought a lot applied to both of us, in varying degrees. We'll probably save this for further discussion this weekend (after sex, of course ). Some initial observations of ourselves: - #3 is the one we would rank the lowest. I think we practice "selective spontaneity" - when were are private we can be very spontaneous, but we don't really get into the "public sex" and the thrill of getting caught (we have tried a few things but its not something we rate highly). - #5 is what Bunnie said was a big factor in helping her grow in sexual desire. She was "willing but nervous", but seeing how I treated it as fun as never took our bedroom mishaps seriously, but saw them in humorous terms, helped her conquer the nervousness. At this stage in our lives the fun of sex is what makes it romantic to us. - #9 is something we "argue" about, in that we are both focused on giving the other sexual pleasure, and seeing them enjoy it, because that in turn gets us excited. For example, one will want to give the other oral sex, but the other would rather give than receive, so we "fight" over who will do who (many times the 69 position will settle these differences. ). - #10 we saw in each other before we became sexual, but in a different way than the article. We both sought high achievement in our interests, be it studies, work, or pleasure. This was not for ego, but for enjoyment. It was one of the things that attracted us to each other. I'll probably see a few more things as we discuss this, but thought others might also find the article interesting, even if not agreeing with all of it.