Hey everyone My husband is a little insecure about it and I was wondering if any of yours are too (because, after all this site is mostly about sex)? What do you say to put their minds at ease? Have you made rules about it? I have told him that I will end my membership here if it will make him feel better but he doesn't want me to do that. So we made a rule that if I keep my distance (ie. no pm's that get too personal etc.) and only post on the threads we're ok. I believe in give and take when it comes to making a marriage work and I think it's been a bit one-sided for awhile.... he gives more than I do. My biggest problem is that I'm paranoid about him trying to control me - it has nothing to do with him, it's my past relationships. I have lived with two alcoholics and both of them were abusive. I will never ever let myself become a victim to something like that again. But because I feel so strongly about this I have sometimes blown up at him for no good reason and giving into this fear I have of someone trying to oppress me again. Does any of this make sense? Should I end my membership here even though he hasn't asked me to do that? Would any of you if your spouse asked?