Are you sexually frustrated?

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  1. Black_Magic83

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    I had a bit of a joke with my man earlier.. telling him that I only want sex with him once a week, he was playing Resident Evil 5 at the time, getting frustrated because of the zombies. I turned to him with that revelation and his face dropped. He said "Fine, you can have voluntary sex with me once a week, but I am getting what I want from you at least another 5 times a week!" LOL

    I can only imagine what it must be like to be sexually frustrated. I once was, with my ex who was 10 years older than me. We would have sex one night and I would want more the next night and he said he would need time to recover! Hence why we only did it once a week if I was luckily. I used to get jealous if neighbours had a more active sex life than I. I would also get myself to porn- alot of it in fact. I never cheated or had cyber sex with anyone.

    If you are sexually frustrated, do you feel resentful towards your SO? Feel deprived and unnattractive? ETC

    What are your views....
     
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    Resentful, dismayed, rejected, unwanted, worthless, disappointed, sad.

    Mostly because it's half my fault. Sometimes I just don't have the energy to make the moves. Might be the same with her.
     
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    I would not say resentful, but sad, sometimes mad, frustrated, yes!.
    The wife has no interest in sex any more and due to meds and having Alzheimer's, it is not about to change.
     
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    I have lots of pleasurable sex at home, and my wife has a very high sex drive. Part of what she enjoys is my size, but that's all you need to know. We generally have vanilla sex on weekday afternoons and spread out in the sitting room on Sunday afternoons. This might be a Tantric-style session, or playing cards or a board game with winners (but not losers). I think we'll do a game this afternoon (about 3 hours from now). We also have outdoors sex, and now the weather is warmer I intend to explore somewhere about an hour's drive from home.

    There are two things which frustrate me. One is that my wife is sexually passive, and that's really draining on me, and most of the reason I see other women is that affairs gives me respite (it's like a big burden taken from my shoulders). She knows this but doesn't seem capable of changing. The other is that I do like role-play a lot, there is another thread on that at the moment, but she doesn't. Affairs give me the role-play variety we really could do at home together.

    I do feel resentful, because together we could do a whole lot more. I feel deprived but not unattractive, probably because other women find me attractive and want to have sex with me!
     
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    I have gone through the entire range here. There is a lot of resentment but I have come to believe that the partner with a higher sex drive can come to an understanding and acceptance if he or she truly loves his mate. With that understanding its possible to compromise in many ways, be it the number of times or the manner of release. Maybe you could just jerk him off a few times between your once a weekers.
     
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    For me I feel rejected or not attractive enough for her to desire me more.
    But I should not feel this way because Sex just isn't one of her priorities.

    However one thing that pisses me off is I ill go to bed early I'll say wake me up when you come to bed, the next morning I'll ask her what happened and she'll say, "you looked so tired", yeah no shit I was asleep!

    The other night I took a Vicodin for my back and she came up to bed several hours later than what we expected, you can imagine what happened. I do not like taking any kind of pills even ibuprofen. I wont even drink alcohol if I know shes horny.

    2 nights ago I was in a lot of pain and she asked if I wanted a Vicodin I said no I would rather deal with the pain and be able to have a good solid erection.

    So for me I can be in pain and still enjoy good sex.
    Guess were all wired differently.
     
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    Hi HL...

    I know what you mean, my other half could be ill with flu, bereaved on his last legs and he will be in the mood for sex!
     
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    I'm good. Three times a week, well, last week on vacation was 9 times, but on average 3 times a week and we're good.