Are you romantic?

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  1. sensless

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    I'm challenged in the romance thing.

    Are you romantic? What is it you do that's romantic?
     
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    Great question. I will have to come back to this.
     
  3. Sagittarius84

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    I'm not, have always seen it as an unnecessary form of tribute..something women use to display to their peers their command of their significant others' devotion..not for me...
     
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    Of course I am!!! I don't always make a girl swallow. :p :D
    All BS aside.....Lets just say I can be. ;)
     
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    My wife and I find that the most romantic gestures lie in anticipation of each other's needs. On one hand this means things like doing the dishes and laundry and other mundane things On another hand it is doing more thoughtful things like warming up her car on a cold morning, going out for ice cream when she has a craving, or going out for bagels and coffee on a weekend morning. There are also everyday things like holding hands when we go out, taking the dog for a walk together and suiting and listening to each other. When we were younger we were more into the grand gestures like breakfast in bed, picnics, flowers for no reason, candlelit massages, bubble baths, sunsets at the beach.

    Come to think of it, I should get back to more of those.
     
  6. Sexy Strip

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    Define "romantic" I tend not to be so much these days, I was when I was younger (I'm 27) but I've learned when a man is romantic he is projecting as a person that he sort of isn't and I always feel interacting with a guy like that, its acting and a turn off. I found that out the hard way, so these days I don't really expect my man to be sort of a white knight at my door with a bouquet of flowers and chocolates. I'd rather him just be him, flaws and all. And if he is a guy like that trying to be overly sweet and that is just what he does there is a chance I will not be attracted to him. I guess I value honesty more than romance.
     
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    My wife says I don't have a romantic bone in my body. I suppose she's right. I don't guess I even know the definition.
     
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    with other women yes very much so.
    don't think I have very been romantic with a man,just a toy to play with sometimes
     
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    Yes - probably far too much but I do have sincere feelings. :)
     
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    The answer is going to be largely contingent on how you define "romantic."

    I'm a romantic in that I see my partner through a pair of rose-tinted glasses and do all that I can for her when she needs me to do so.
    I'm not a romantic in the sense that I don't subscribe to the Hallmark/DeBeers notion that you have to buy someone a bunch of (ultimately useless and overpriced) bullshit to have their affection.
     
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    You're like my man, then, and myself, I'm afraid.

    l think if I'd ever find a romantic man, I could adapt, but I'm not even sure it'd be possible.
     
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    Very. I'm a sentimental, artistic, dreamer who can't help but be passionate and romantic in most aspects of life. However, in a relationship I think a little romance goes a long way. Too much comes off as trying too much in my opinion.
     
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    I'll hold the door and your chair for you. :) #chivelrous
     
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    I'd say I am more so than my friends. I hold doors, we'll hold hands in public, often while walking for exercise. I'll do things in the kitchen to make it easier for her, I'll take her car and wash it inside and out....WITHOUT her asking. She doesn't like killing flowers, but I'll take a photo and send it to her at work.
     
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    l won't try to define romantic. I wanted to learn what it means from the romantic ones among you.

    l didn't expect opening doors, doing works in the house, washing stuff as answers. Isn't it just normal that if you eat and dirt, you cook and clean? Isn't it just normal to open doors for people? I do it all the time for complete strangers and complete strangers do it all the time for me. Men for women and women for men. With a smile.

    l thought being romantic was something different, something more than cleaning after her/himself and being polite and helpful.

    Interesting.
     
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    I think doing things around the house for your partner can lead to..... romance! LOL! The effort one makes for their partner in every-day life—even the smallest gestures—tend to make for a more satisfying romantic life.
     
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    l get your point.
     
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    I'd like you to really get my point...

    Bwaha!
     
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