[Ask a Guy] Are you intimidated?

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  1. Barbwire

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    Guys, are you intimidated by aggressive women? Are you less apt to initiate sex if you are with a woman that does a lot of initiating herself?
     
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    I'm intimidated by any woman!!
     
  3. Barbwire

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    What intimidates you about them?
     
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    Nope, I don't mind a strong woman taking the lead.
    One of my very good friends is such a woman.
    She will take control from go to woe and in the process physically nail me down.
    She is the one doing the hard fucking and me just being passive recipient.
    The first time it happened I was quite surprised and did feel a tad uncomfortable wondering if this aggressive woman was not acting like a man but then I relaxed and went with the flow.
    Later we spoke about the encounter and she admitted that reversing the roles has been a lifelong fantasy for her but previously she never dared enact this with any partner she felt would understand that need. Ever since then we randomly taken charge depending on and how our moods dictates.
    We think that this kind of freedom to act as we feel individually can only enrich our sexual existense.
     
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    Quite frankly I Like dominate women. But I also like ot be in control ad take what I want to..and have what I want. I tend to be submissive, but I do it in a way where i trick them into doing what I want them to do...hehe
     
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    I was thinking that like in my case, having only had sex with one woman (who is passive) that to encounter one who is more aggressive and initiates sex (and acts during sex) is kind of a shock and a bit hard to get used to. I guess I might figure that since her sex drive is probably higher than mine that I would have more than I could handle and therefore maybe no need to initiate myself.
     
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    Nah, my wife is a pistol and her daddy was a son of a gun.;)
     
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    Not intimidated, I love an aggressive woman. I think it's hot
     
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    omg one thing i always fantasize about is a girl just rippin my clothes off and nailin me dow. ss ohot imo. i go ROCK hard just thinkin about it.
     
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    Maybe the term aggressive wasn't what was meant, but for sure I am not interested in an agressive woman in bed or out. On the same basis I don't socialise with aggressive men.

    But if the word should have been strong or dominant, then I love it. For me, the most memorable partners and memorable sexual encounters have been with women who knew what they wanted and were not afraid to let me know what that was. And if they took over and ran things, so much the better.
     
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    I said aggressive and I meant aggressive, cbrmale.

    ag·gres·sive

    Pronunciation:\ə-ˈgre-siv\

    Function:adjective

    strong or emphatic in effect or intent
     
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    Intimated? Not in the least. I quite like it.

    Hmmm...now this is a good question. I'm not sure...possibly yes...if she initiates all the time, then I'd probably grow to sort of depend on her to initiate. However, I think the ideal is for either one to initiate when you feel like it. I think if one person initiates all the time, the initiator might grow to feel less desirable because they initiate all the time, even though it's probably not at all lack of desire and just force of habit at work. Like most things in life, balance is good. That was a great question.

    BD
     
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    I'm trying to wrap my head around the fact that he almost never initiates and try to figure out why that is so. It's been bothering me for quite a while now, making me feel like shit, really. Perhaps you are right, he's just so used to me doing it all the time it's a habit for him.

    I was thinking it was my strong personality and somewhat aggressive nature that was intimidating to him.
     
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    Ah, I see. OK, so I'd guess he's not lacking any desire, but just waiting for you to initiate because that's what he's used to. Be wary of stopping your initiations though...if you stop, he'll probably feel like you've lost desire for him, and that will either make him want to initiate OR it'll make him NOT initiate out of fear of rejection...not sure which, it really depends on his personality wiring I think.

    Is it possible to just talk to him about it? If not, maybe you could tease and make it obvious that you WANT him to initiate. But be careful there too...if he doesn't initiate after you've given him ample and clear hints, that might make you feel worse about it. But, again keep in mind it's probably force of habit at work here...

    BD
     
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    We sure are complicated animals.

    Actually I may be more inclined to initiate if she frequently does, maybe because I'm more comfortable knowing she's a horndog anyway... unless she initiates so often that I don't have time to get horny in between. That's the way it used to be, but lately we are getting kind of old and worn out ya know.
     
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    hahaha
     
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    I like agressive women. I also love it when women volcalize what they want during sex. We're not mind readers. Too many women are to bashful to ask for what they really desire.
     
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    In that case I wouldn't be involved, sexually or otherwise.

    Oxford Dictionary:
    1. Full of anger or hostility
    2. Forceful or determined
    3. Inclined to behave in an actively hostile fashion
     
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    Not at all as long as she is sincere and has class and style. However, the phony 'porn star' or 'bdsm freak' just turns me off. Otherwise, I luv it when the women initiates and controls things. And it wouldn't stop me from initiating.
     
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    not too often, but it is exciting every now and then