are you in a sexless marriage?

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  1. CuriousProf

    CuriousProf New Member

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    Hello...
    I am very interested in hearing from women who are in a sexless marriage...one where their husband is just not interested and has a low sex drive...how have you dealt with this? How do you deal with it? Have you taken on a lover? Are you considering divorce? Or? This is just something that is not talked about much...I think the stereotype is the guy who is frustrated because his wife is just not into sex...Not really looking for advice so much as just other stories of women in similar situation as mine...thanks.
     
  2. Ryan

    Ryan Gold Member

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    Moved to General Relationships

    The introduction forum is a place for introducing your self. :)
     
  3. Logger

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    try something like:

    http://www.asexuality.org/home/

    There is a website for education about people who are not intersted in sex. Abstinance is avoiding sex, even though you acknowledge sex is fun.

    Asexual means you are just not interested.

    Have you talked about sex to H? What does he say?

    Have you ever rented a few types of porn DVD's and tried to find what he likes?

    Have you tried arousal in the morning? Does H ever get a Morning Erection?

    What time do you go to bed? What tiem are you ready for sex in the morning? What time does he leave for work? Church?
     
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    Yes I would say that I am.Since her surgery a year and a half,I am luck if I get it once a month.
     
  5. Donia

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    I WAS in a sexless marriage and it was horrible. At first, I tried to just deal with it through masterbation. That was ok for a little while, but eventually, I wanted actual sex with another person. I decided (after about 2 years of struggling to make the decision) that I would find someone just for sex and stay in my marriage. I had by this time, told my husband that I was no longer in love with him and that I wanted a divorce. He said I was just going through a phase. Well, I did end up cheating on him for about 6 months before he found out. Looking back, I really wish I hadn't cheated. I should have just left him. We ended being separated for 3 years with me dating other men with his knowledge. It was an odd situation, and I know I could have handled it differently. I have to say though, that I learned so much about myself and about how to handle simular problems in the future.