Are blowjobs, my ultimate fantasy... overrated?

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  1. thamobb

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    Brief sexual history of me:
    Growing up I was real fat and seen as "different" for a lot of reasons. Until college the notion of me sexually interacting with girls basically didn't exist.

    When I turned 21, I began a big transition... hit the gym, slimmed down, developed a lot more confidence and swagger, became much more popular, social, shot caller etc. Suddenly I'm hooking up with quite a few girls and am "desired" by a lot of girls on my campus, something I still sometimes can't believe. I've come out of my shell and know who I am now but sometimes I can regress into my old mentality for moments...

    Anyway, growing up I never fantasized about intercourse much. Of course it turns me on, and when I recently lost my virginity it was cool, tho I imagine going raw is much better than using a condom. Of course I will wait for the right situation to go raw - probably when I get married and want kids.

    However, I've always had an obsession with oral sex. Dunno why, but it is a fetish for me. I would say 90+ & of my porn is blowjobs etc.

    I didn't have my first kiss till I was 21.... didn't get head until I was 22, didn't lost my virginity till 22 (i am 22 now btw, this all happened in the last semester :) )

    So I am dealing with like... 10 years of masturbation, and a lot of it, and I can still get hard in a second and jack off pretty much whenever I want to.

    What's weird and really anticlimactic for me is that head, what I dreamed about so much and felt would be the best sensation in the world, doesn't seem to feel that good :ugh

    Mentally it feels good. And physically of course it does feel cool, but nowhere near orgasmic. Is it just because I am soooo used to my own technique? Is there any way I can become more responsive to a mouth? Another thing is that I am uncircumcised and from what I've heard, us uncut guys are more particular about technique to get us to cum.

    With the first girl I thought maybe she wasn't that good at giving head.... the second one wasn't that great... but I went out with a very skilled Colombian girl and a skilled Mexican girl recently. Both were freaky and did everything from slow, sensual wet blowjobs, to letting me facefuck them, to them deepthroating etc etc etc. And while there were moments where it felt nice, like as if I was moderately jacking off, I never felt anything, even during deepthroat that I felt would trigger an orgasm if I/she kept doing what we were doing.

    I realize that my expectations for the like... 10 years where I dreamed of receiving oral sex were probably put way too high. But I'm curious, can anyone relate to what I'm going thru? Or am I unusual? I'm all paranoid thinking that there's something I could do to get more stimulation from it, but I don't know......

    thanks so much!

    A
     
  2. vampire raver

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    I was the same way, I always had fantasies about oral sex, but when i recieved it, don't get me wrong it felt/feels great but it isn't as great as I thought it was going to be.

    Reasons
    1. The penis really needs a lot of stimulation, blow job often don't stimulate the entire cock enough, for me, to cum easily,
    2. The next is that i feel some girls are not as skill as much as is needed to make a man cum through oral stimulation, to the ladies sucking dick is a hard art and we love you for doing it, it just takes time to master it.
    3. Most important I think, The mind is the most erogenous part of the body, so therefore what we precieve in our mind to be great sex and extremely stimulating may not be the physically stimulating, This is why fetishes are fetishes because your mind is what turns you on not really the physical act

    Hope that helps
     
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  3. Steel

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    The first girl I was ever with… from 18-24 liked to give oral as foreplay only and never took it any further. At the time it was awesome…felt good…real good… but looking back there was no technique or thought behind it.
    Skip forward about two years… new relationship, night and day. She LOVED giving oral and was very good at it…. So good that it was at times better that the actual sex that came later!
    Over rated… no way!
     
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    Just depends on the girls mood. Some times its meh and sometimes they can get your eyes rolling back.
     
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    I think in general any time you anticipate something for so long, 9 times out of 10 it turns out to be a letdown. :(
     
  6. Kronnie

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    Plus porn isnt a realistic form to base sexual acts on, those porn stars male and female are paid to make it look like they are totaly loving whats happening and also paid to show that in the media as well ....

    You should all feel great that you find females that are even willing to do this for you, im 34 and havnt had that yet.., if they are not any good at it in your opinion thats fine, just send them my way, a bad bj is better than none at all imo.

    Not every female is a porn star in the waiting, in the same way that not every guy is a porn stud either , but most would like to think they are :p
     
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    ^^;; it would depend on the person..yea? and.. why is it "porn star" and "por stud" o.o <.< -gasp- sexist! (jk)
     
  8. Bluesy

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    I think enthusiasm probably plays a vital role in determining whether you're going to get a bad-mediocre BJ or a WOW! one. I mean, if a woman isn't really into it, how good can it possibly be? She's just going to want to get it over with. And then there are those of us who see a stiff cock and instantly start to salivate at the thought of getting our lips around it! The same applies to cunnilingus. It's boring, and you have to really work at getting to orgasm, when the guy just isn't that into it :(

    Just for the record, I've never failed to get a guy off from a BJ ;)
     
  9. Kronnie

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    How is saying that sexist ? please explain ( Just saw the jk part at the end hehehe my bad im tired lol )

    And having a sexual partner that is willing to give you a bj is ( if you after them ) better than not getting them at all. so meaning bad is better than none, good is better than bad great is better than good.

    Well i love oral sex on a female , i try to treat that like its the last supper hehe, i love and enjoy that a lot, because i know the female herself loves the feeling, getting a female as randy and aroused as possible is such an awsome feeling..
    but never had a female do more than a few seconds and just on the head of my penis....
    would love to have a female lusting over my cock for a bj :) maybe one day hehe
     
  10. Bluesy

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    Well, women are more apt to want their guy to act like a romance novel hero, I think ;) So we could also say, "Not every female is a porn star in the waiting, and not every guy could adeptly assume the role of leading man in a romance novel." ;)
     
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    lol yea.. that's more like it lol..XD but wouldn't that be nice?
     
  12. Kronnie

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    I dont think i could be the leading guy in a romance novel lol
    But maybe the sidekick ( and we all know what happens to the sidekicks :p
     
  13. Bluesy

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    Oh, no, no sidekicks in romance! But there is always at least one other male character who's trying to woo the leading woman. Last romance I read, there were, um, three male characters competing for the lead's affections. We women do love to fancy ourselves being in the middle of a flock of amorous men dying to declare their eternal devotion to us...*sigh*.

    Of course it goes without saying that the male characters are always HOT in bed...albeit always possessing different love-making styles.
     
  14. Kronnie

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    As they say practice makes perfect.....are you up for some practice with me ?

    (In my dreams only hehe)

    I think im capable of being romantic and of wooing a female, it has just been a while since i had the oppertunity...
     
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    So a good romance novel is like a sexual buffet? (wondering why food keeps popping up in today’s posts)
     
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    Who's hungry??
     
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  18. Kronnie

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    Steele is hehehe

    Bluesy you know me from my posts i do, so you know me well enough to know im not a romantic type :)
     
  19. Bluesy

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    :lol Yeah, I guess food is the theme for SF tonight... How about if I cover myself with chocolate sauce and whipped cream, Steel? :brow Would that satisfy your appetite, you think? I'll get a gallon of each, some marachino cherries, sprinkles, you-name-it, and then Kronnie and Mel can join in...it's Bluesy Buffet night! :lol

    ??? Sure you are! Are you being serious?
     
  20. Kronnie

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    I wasnt feeling very hungry untill that offer was made , now im drooling...no fair :p

    Not serious , well not totaly, but hugs for the compliment :)