Anyone got any ideas????

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  1. Vman464

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    How do I bring out or even find out if my SO has a kinky wild side? Sex is good but it generally plays out like this. I use one of her vibrating toys to make her cum, then I get penetration and make her cum a few more times before I finish then it's off to the bathroom to clean up then off to bed. It's really frustrating because I want so much more. I'm a very sexual oriented person and she says she is but I've never truly seen it. Tried bondage once or twice but very soft bondage, and it was the same senerio toy, sex, bed. I'm just curious to find out how to bring that side out in her or find out if she even has that side. She doesn't want me watching porn or anything else, she's ok with me masturbating but only to pictures of her that I occasionally get to snap. Just wondering if anyone had any thoughts? Also, don't get me wrong she is very loving and goes well out of her way to please me in all aspects but the bedroom. Is she just not into it???
     
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    Depending on age/length of relationship, I'd suggest a game - Cosmo makes a few or from a sex store.
    Roll the dice... Kiss my... Neck...

    Cosmo isn't as "scary" bc it's something familiar to most women. Sex store games are for bad girls.

    What type of stuff do you want her to try?
     
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    Idk open to anything sexual pretty much, we did try a game once it was pretty lame and she lost interest rather quickly, it was the dice. Turned into more of a game than anything sexual...just wish she would initiate or even try to turn me on or be sexual towards me. Lol maybe I'm just setting my sights too high by reading the things others are posting on here....
     
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    Oh and we have been together for About 3 yrs, married for a yr and a half.
     
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    Next time she tells you it's your turn to take out the trash, tell her it's her turn to initiate sex!

    Does she feel sexy? Have any sexy clothes/lingerie?

    Can you text her a role playing scenario during the day and act it out at night.... This is the plumber, I'm going to check your pipes tonight...?
     
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    I didn't see anything in your post about trying to talk to her and tell her what types of things you would want to try in the bedroom. You don't have to spill your guts all at once , just start small and build from there. Communications is everything. I am willing to bet if you tell her some things that you want her to try with you she will be a willing participant.
     
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    Great Point!
     
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    Yes she has sexy clothing, as far as feeling sexy I tell and try to show through my actions that she is daily. And taking out the trash is just something I do lol we don't live in a subdivided neighborhood lol I take the trash to town with me and use the dumpster at work
     
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    I have she makes jokes about it lol and yes I've tried the sexting but she doesn't really get into it.
     
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    My wife's into vanilla sex to a set script and doesn't like to deviate from that, and I have suggested different things and we've done them once but it was clear she didn't like them. This comment here 'goes well out of her way to please me in all aspects' is also like my wife, and that's what drags our sex down. During sex she tries to please me and second-guess what I want, but all this does is put the onus on me to make sex more than bland vanilla.

    I did find one turn-on in our experimenting and that was outdoor sex which she loves! So for 6 months of the year we do that from time to time and probably again tomorrow. So keep looking and you may find something, but if it's like my experience then she probably isn't into more than what you currently do.
     
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    Hello. I don't think we've met.

    I have a question before I let you know what I think. What kinky things do you want to do? I think I might be able to give you an idea of which of your desires a yet to be kinkster might like to start with. Off the top of my head right now, I would suggest some sensory things or sensory deprivation things.
     
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    Kinda in the same boat my man. Lol at least you get to use a vibrator! For me it's slow and gradual . No pressure and slowly thongs are coming out :) but I'll be watching this for tips!
     
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    Hehe... He said "tips"... Hehe
     
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    That is awesome lol
     
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    like to wax the base of my cock ....... My G.F loves so to have other females . your thoughts
     
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    Bring a friend home and DP her